• 1:1 Coaching
    • Elevate Your Confidence Program
    • University of You Program
    • Client Testimonials
  • Anxiety Relief
    • Free Affirmations
    • Free Meditations
    • Becoming Fearless (eBook)
    • Becoming Fearless Collection (eBook, workbook + masterclass)
    • 7-Day Anixety Mini-Course
    • Morning Journal
  • About
    • My Story
    • FAQ >
      • What is NLP and TimeLine Therapy?
      • What are limiting beliefs?
      • What are Negative Emotions
      • Relieving stress & anxiety
      • What is a growth mindset?
      • Can Meditation remove negative thoughts?
    • Contact
  • Blog
  • 1:1 Coaching
    • Elevate Your Confidence Program
    • University of You Program
    • Client Testimonials
  • Anxiety Relief
    • Free Affirmations
    • Free Meditations
    • Becoming Fearless (eBook)
    • Becoming Fearless Collection (eBook, workbook + masterclass)
    • 7-Day Anixety Mini-Course
    • Morning Journal
  • About
    • My Story
    • FAQ >
      • What is NLP and TimeLine Therapy?
      • What are limiting beliefs?
      • What are Negative Emotions
      • Relieving stress & anxiety
      • What is a growth mindset?
      • Can Meditation remove negative thoughts?
    • Contact
  • Blog
Thrive Mindset Coaching
  • 1:1 Coaching
    • Elevate Your Confidence Program
    • University of You Program
    • Client Testimonials
  • Anxiety Relief
    • Free Affirmations
    • Free Meditations
    • Becoming Fearless (eBook)
    • Becoming Fearless Collection (eBook, workbook + masterclass)
    • 7-Day Anixety Mini-Course
    • Morning Journal
  • About
    • My Story
    • FAQ >
      • What is NLP and TimeLine Therapy?
      • What are limiting beliefs?
      • What are Negative Emotions
      • Relieving stress & anxiety
      • What is a growth mindset?
      • Can Meditation remove negative thoughts?
    • Contact
  • Blog

Becoming FEARLESS: Your Journey to Confidence & Beyond

Don't miss a thing! Subscribe to my Mindset Coaching blog for free weekly inspiration and support



    Author

    Janel Briggs
    Empowering Women to Become Fearless & Thrive Through Big Life Transitions

    Categories

    All
    Affirmations
    Anxiety
    Burnout
    Business
    Career
    Christmas
    Coaching
    Communication
    Comparison
    Criticism
    Fear
    Fear Of Failure
    Goal
    Goal Setting
    Growth Mindset
    Habit Change
    Identity Crisis
    Imposter Syndrome
    Judgement
    Mental Health
    Mindfulness
    Mindset
    Morning Routine
    Overwhelm
    People Pleasing
    Perfectionism
    Relationships
    Self Care
    Self-care
    Stress
    Suicide Prevention
    Validation
    Worry

    RSS Feed

Back to Blog

How to Work with a Perfectionist (When You’re Not One)

18/4/2025

 
It takes a perfectionist to know a perfectionist. Yes, I admit I used to be one.

From a young age I was ALWAYS obsessed with doing it “right”, frightfully scared to fail, and I continutally hit mental burnout (time and time again!) from my incessant need to control outcomes and re-do things a hundred times while trying to achieve the elusive perfection.
​
Thankfully, I'm now 5 years into my 'recovery' for my perfectionism. So trust me when I say: this blog comes from personal experience and professional insight.
Picture

If you’re working for (or alongside) a perfectionist - and you’re NOT one yourself - it can feel draining, confusing, and sometimes like you’re never quite “good enough”.

Working with a perfectionist can feel exhausting. Their high standards, constant push for the unachievable, and laser-focus on what’s missing (rather than what’s working!) can leave you second-guessing yourself or wondering if you’ll ever "do enough" to impress them.
​
And if you’re not wired the same way - maybe you're someone who values flow over structure, progress over perfection, or prefers big picture thinking to detailed micro management, then the relationship can feel tense or stressful.

​But here’s the key insight I had to learn the hard way (that might change the game for you too):
Perfectionism isn’t just about a person's need for control - it’s often rooted in an unconscious fear of failure, judgment, or critisim.
Understanding this can help you stop taking things personally and start setting clear boundaries, communicating with more confidence, and creating an ease in your work relationships.
​
The perfectionist’s inner narrative is often:
“If I can control every detail, I can prevent failure. If I can stay across every task, I can ensure nothing goes wrong and I won't be judged or criticised.”
It’s often a desperate need for control, in an attempt to quiet the fear but disguised as diligence. This is why so many perfectionists burnout in the workplace. There is a push-pull of always needing to do MORE.
​
Here are five mindset shifts and practical strategies to help you work with a perfectionist to help you show up with more confidence to protect your peace in the working environment.

1. It’s Not Always About You

As mentioned perfectionists are often driven by a deep fear or insecurity of being judged, failing, or letting someone down. Their meticulousness or over-correction isn’t a always necessarily a reflection of your value - it’s how they manage their own inner critic.

This means:
  • If they’re micro-managing, it’s likely about avoiding mistakes
  • If they’re overly critical, they’re likely just repeating the harsh tone they use on themselves
  • If they’re obsessing over the small stuff, they might be trying to regain a sense of control
​
If you're feeling triggered by any of the above... your best option is to reframe the situation:
“I see what they're doing here. They’re trying to avoid risk, not trying to undermine me.”
This shift in perspective can take some of the sting out of their feedback - and help you stay grounded in your own self-worth.

2. Ask for Clarity - Don’t Assume Anything

Perfectionists have high but often unspoken expectations. They might give broad direction but expect you to give them pixel-perfect outcomes. You don’t need to read their mind, but it's in your best interest to ask clear questions of specificially what they want/need up front (in dot point form!).
​
Try asking:
  • “What does success look like in your mind for this project?”
  • “Are there any details that are most important to you that you want me to know?”
  • “What would you like to see first for review?”
  • "How can I specificially support you in this task?"

​The more clarity you get early on, the fewer revisions later and the more confident you’ll feel knowing you’re aligned doing (xyz) exactly as they outlined!

3. Don’t Absorb Their Anxiety

If you're naturally easygoing or flexible, you might find yourself absorbing a perfectionist’s pressure or urgency. Their energy can be intense and cause undue stress, especially under deadlines.

​The truth is: You don’t have to match their pace or tension to be effective. In fact, you’ll be even MORE effective when you lead as your authentic self.

Hold your own internal rhythm. Breathe. Regroup. Get clarity. Stick to the way you work best.
“I do my best work when I stay calm and centered. Even if they operate differently.”
I can assure you the best outcomes do not come from anxious energy. Someone in the equation has to stay level headed and grounded. Perhaps you're most valuable gift is that you are not stuck in perfectionism spinning wheels with them!

4. Reflect Progress, Not Perfection

One of the hardest things about working with a perfectionist? They often overlook progress in the pursuit of flawlessness outcomes. Sure, we all want success, but when every detail has to be perfect, it can feel like even if we're off by1% nothing is ever good enough.

It can leave you feeling unseen, unappreciated, or like your efforts don’t count. And how will we ever learn and grow if anything other than 100% perfection is failure?

You can help balance this by reflecting progress back to them.

​Try communicating like this:

  • “Here’s what we’ve accomplished so far...”
  • “This version is ready for your input — happy to keep refining.”
  • “Here’s what’s complete, and here’s what’s in progress.”

​You’re not asking for gold stars — you’re guiding their attention to what’s going well, and inviting constructive feedback instead of criticism.

5. Hold Your Boundaries - Know Your Worth

Perfectionists sometimes overstep without realizing it — adding last-minute changes, asking for unnecessary tweaks, or expecting 110% MORE all the time. It can be incredibly frustrating and leave you feeling like no matter how much you give, it’s never quite enough.

However, this is a way to maintain a collaborative relationship while protecting your time and energy.

Try using language like:
​
  • “I can prioritize that change, but it means pushing back on X. Is that okay?”
  • "I’m happy to make updates — but let’s prioritize. Which part is most critical to you right now?"
  • “I’d love your input on what version feels good enough to move forward?”

This communicates that you’re engaged and professional — but also self-respecting with healthy boundaries.

You Deserve to Feel Confident - Even in Tough Work Dynamics

Working with a perfectionist can test your patience, your mindset, and sometimes even your self-esteem! But you don’t have to change who you are to thrive. You just need the right tools and support to navigate it.

​Building real, lasting confidence at work isn’t about becoming louder or more assertive. It’s about knowing your value, communicating clearly, and learning how to stand steady in your strengths — even when others operate differently.

-Janel Briggs
Picture

Ready to Level Up Your Confidence?

If this resonated with you and you're looking for ways to stop shrinking yourself around different personalities at work to start owning your space... my 1:1 Confidence & Mindset Coaching is designed just for you.

Whether you’re navigating tricky work relationships, leading a team, or preparing for your next big step up, I’ll help you shift from self-doubt to unshakable self-confidence.

👉 Let’s work together to build the version of you who speaks up, stands tall, and leads with clarity and confidence.

Book Your Free Discovery Call Today!
Learn More About 1:1 Coaching
0 Comments
read more
Back to Blog

Setting Healthy Holiday Boundaries: Protecting Your Peace

17/12/2024

 
The holiday season can be a time of joy—but also a source of stress for many professional women managing demanding careers and family commitments.

Navigating holiday dynamics, whether at work or home, often brings pressure to meet expectations, resolve conflicts, and maintain harmony.

However, what I've come to realise is that learning how to set clear boundaries CAN transform this experience!

By managing your time and energy wisely (spending less time with people that drain you!) you can reduce stress, increase emotional resilience, and create space for meaningful experiences and more peaceful in your life.

WHY HEALTH BOUNDARIES MATTER

Setting boundaries isn’t about saying "no" to everything; it’s about saying "yes" to what aligns with your values, energy, and well-being. When you honor your own limits, you can show up more present and engaged in the moments that matter most.

I used to fall into the trap of doing everything for everyone. I was the problem solver and caretaker of my family, as many women are. But without boundaries at this time of year I would be an anxious mess in the weeks leading up to Christmas, my memories of past Christmases that didnt live up to my expectations playing on repeat - affecting my sleep, energy and mood. 

What I've learned is that boundaries aren't about being closed off—they're about protecting your well-being so you can show up at your best, personally and professionally. They'll help you to conserve your time, energy, and mental well-being—allowing you to feel more grounded.

The holiday season is notorious for its demands—extra events, financial pressures, emotional family dynamics, and the endless search for the perfect gift. When you don’t set boundaries, you risk spreading yourself too thin, leaving little room for the things that truly matter.
Picture

4 WAYS YOU CAN START SETTING HOLIDAY BOUNDARIES

​1. Prioritize Your Time and Energy
 
It’s impossible to be everywhere and do everything FOR EVERYONE—so don’t try! Instead, decide what’s truly important to you this season. Is it family movie nights? Baking cookies with your kids? Or maybe just some quiet mornings to recharge?

  • Action Tip: Make a list of your holiday “must-haves” and focus on these. Anything that doesn’t align with your priorities can be politely declined.
 
2. Communicate Expectations Clearly (and Kindly!)

Last week I wrote about the art of saying “no”! Setting boundaries requires open and honest communication with the people in your life. 
  • Action Tip: Whether it’s your boss, family, or friends, clearly articulate what you can and cannot commit to this season. AND what expectations you have, OR behaviour you will or will not allow.

To Family:

“I’m excited to celebrate together, but I can’t host all of Christmas lunch this year. I would appreciate if everyone can contribute (either a dish, or cash towards food etc).”

To Friends:

“I’d love to join the holiday party, but I can only stay for a couple of hours due to other commitments.”

To Your Boss:

“I’m happy to wrap up key projects before the holidays, but I won’t be available after December 23rd as I’ll be offline spending time with my family.”

Setting a Behavior Boundary:

“I understand you have a lot to say about (x topic), but I won’t engage in conversations that feel disrespectful or critical. Please, let's keep it positive and supportive, otherwise I'm tapping out.”

3. Protect Your Mental and Emotional Energy
 
As you know, family gatherings can bring joy—but also drama. It’s okay to limit your time with individuals who drain your energy or create tension.

  • Action Tip: Plan visits for shorter durations or choose neutral venues where you feel more at ease. If the conversation takes a negative turn, excuse yourself for a moment, get outside take a few deep breaths and some time to reset.
 
4. Follow Through with Consistency

Here's the reason why setting boundaries feels so hard, we KNOW that not everyone is going to like your boundaries. People may give you a snarky reply or talk behind your back. At the end of the day though, if they can't respect you and your wishes - then how much air time do they really deserve?? (yes, even if they are FAMILY!)
  • Action Tip: Be consistent in your message and direct to the point, no need to over explain. Some people may push back, they may not reply, or could try you  again. Remember their reaction isn't your responsibility. 

Your Peace, is your responsibility

No one else is going to be looking for ways to bring you more peace. Only you can do that. Now, it may take some uncomfortable conversations and a little practice at following through. But, you are ALWAYS worth it!  

Picture
​About the Author: 
Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across the globe in overcoming their professional anxieties, imposter syndrome, fears and insecurities to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. Mindset Coaching is about empowering women to rise above self-doubt and become fearless leaders in the pursuit of life and career success! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

Picture
0 Comments
read more
Back to Blog

My Secret to Saving Your Sanity for Christmas

11/12/2024

 
Well, the holiday season is here—and it's supposed to be a time of joy, connection, and celebration.

But let’s be real: it can also be one of the most EXHAUSTING times of the year!!

Between work deadlines, social commitments, and family obligations, it’s easy to lose sight of what’s truly important...

YOUR MENTAL HEALTH & WELLBEING!

This Christmas, I'm going to let you in on a little secret.

There is 1 thing that I started doing a few years back to save my sanity for Christmas.

Each year I get BETTER and better at it the more I practice it.

​It does mean you might have to do things a little differently, but instead of succumbing to the pressure to “do it all” ... this year I want you to take a moment to pause, reflect, and focus on what matters most.
​

Why Do We Overpack the Holiday Season?

It’s a familiar story: you spend December scrambling to check every box on your to-do list. But why do we do this to ourselves? Research shows:
​
  • 88% of people find the holiday season stressful, according to a study by the American Psychological Association (APA).
  • 69% feel the need to balance work deadlines with holiday preparations, leading to increased anxiety.
  • Social obligations add to the load, with 43% of adults feeling pressured to attend gatherings they don’t actually want to go to.

​The result? Burnout before Christmas Day even arrives.
​
Picture

RELEASE THE PRESSURE ON YOURSELF! (please...)

Here’s the radical idea I adopted a few years back: 

JUST SAY NO.

  • You don’t have to see everyone in December.
  • You don't have to put your hand up and volunteer for something at every group you're in.
  • You def don't have to lay guilt on yourself for taking a step back this year to just breathe.

Let that sink in.


And the world won’t fall apart if you don't volunteer OR postpone some catch-ups until January—or even February.

And here's my best tip on  how to set that boundary with kindness: 

  • Be honest: “I would love to see you/help out, but I’m at capacity right now. Can we do this in January when life feels a little less overwhelming?” 
  • Reframe it: "January is often a calmer month work wise for me and a better time for me for this (project/event/catch up). Can we post-pone until the new year?"
Picture

I Think We Forget That We Need To Protect Our Most Precious Resource: OUR ENERGY!

I Think We Forget That We Need To Protect Our Most Precious Resource: OUR ENERGY! 

When you reflect on what matters most at Christmas, women usually tell me it's being with FAMILY.

If that resonates with you too - let me ask you then, do you want them to have "what's left of you?" or "the best of you" this year??

I spent TOO MANY years with dregs of energy left by December 24th. I learnt this the hard way.

Your time and energy are the most important resource, and only you can guard them.

💡 Here are some practical tips from my "Holiday Stress Suvivial Kit" that will help you prioritize your mental health this holiday season: 
​
  1. Say “No” More Often
    Give yourself permission to decline invitations or obligations that don’t serve you. Remember, a polite “no” now is better than resentment later. 
  2. Schedule Downtime
    Block out time in your calendar for rest and self-care. Treat it like any other important commitment—it’s non-negotiable. 
  3. Simplify Gift-Giving
    If shopping stresses you out, consider alternatives like donations, experiences, or simple heartfelt notes. A survey by Bankrate revealed that 45% of us feel financial stress during the holidays, so simplifying can ease more than just your mental load. 
  4. Focus on What Brings Joy - Whether it's decorating, singing carols, baking with the kids, or a quiet night in with loved ones - lean into activities that nourish your soul rather than drain it!  

Imagine: a Calmer, More Meaningful Christmas

​Imagine starting the new year not feeling drained, but refreshed and content.

​That’s what prioritizing your mental health this Christmas can do for you. By guarding your energy, setting boundaries, and letting go of unnecessary pressures, you’re not just surviving the holidays—you’re thriving through them.

​So, take a deep breath, step back, and make time for what’s truly important: your well-being. After all, a happier, healthier YOU is the greatest gift you can give yourself—and everyone around you.

Picture
About the Author: 
Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across the globe in overcoming their professional anxieties, imposter syndrome, fears and insecurities to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. Mindset Coaching is about empowering women to rise above self-doubt and become fearless leaders in the pursuit of life and career success! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.


Picture
0 Comments
read more
Back to Blog

Are You Measuring Your "Value" by How Productive You Are?

26/11/2024

 
Answer this for me:
  • Do you feel valuable only when you're busy?
  • Pressure to always be productive
  • Constant guilt for resting
  • Fear of judgment when you think about taking time out?
  • Have difficulty enjoying downtime?

​​​How does it feel when you don’t have a million things to juggle or there are zero projects on your plate?

When big life transitions happens and you are actually unable to work, or the kids don’t need as much of your time anymore - and you are perhaps stuck without anything to keep you “busy” so to speak.

If you're anything like me, it probably feels empty. With the mental chatter and a sense of worthlessness creeping in.

These are the same questions I had to ask myself many times when I moved from corporate career to becoming a business owner, and later while starting over as an expat in two countries when there is:

  • No one there to pat your head and give you a good review!
  • No one there to watch all that effort you’ve been putting in and celebrate you!

As women we are somehow wired to believe that “busy and being productive IS our value estimate”.

From a young age, people are taught to link their value to external accomplishments, like academic grades, career success, or financial gains.

Plus this "hustle culture" promotes the idea that the more you do and achieve, the more valuable and successful you are.

And don’t get me wrong, we want ambitious, strong high achieving women in this world!

But THIS can also foster the belief that worth is EARNED... rather than inherent.

​Your Worth Isn’t in Your To-Do List—Here’s Why This Needs to Change.

Picture
​In this short video coaching vlog, I'll unpack why this mindset can be so damaging, especially for high-achieving women! And I share practical ways you can to break free from the constant pressure to "do more".
I'll also touch on:

  1. The harmful impact of Hustle Culture. Constantly striving to “do more” leads to burnout, stress, and even anxiety, creating an endless cycle that makes it hard to rest and recharge.
  2. Ways you can start to break the cycle. Embracing rest and acknowledging it's key to finding balance and peace.
I think you'll love this coaching topic, if you've ever experienced: 
  • Burnout: Exhaustion from always striving to do more, and the never ending to-do list!
  • Self-Doubt: Feeling inadequate or unworthy when not "busy" or "achieving".
  • Anxiety: Worry about not being good enough, without external validation. 

You'll gain insight into you value beyond what you accomplish. My belief is that your worth isn't defined by what you do - it's who you!
​Your self-worth isn’t a by-product of how much you do and achieve - it's in you showing up authentically YOU ~ JB

Picture

​About the Author: 
Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across the globe in overcoming their professional anxieties, imposter syndrome, fears and insecurities to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. Mindset Coaching is about empowering women to rise above self-doubt and become fearless leaders in the pursuit of life and career success! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

Becoming FEARLESS - Digital Resources!

Picture
Shop Here
0 Comments
read more
Back to Blog

Where Are You on the Priority List?

4/3/2024

 
Here's a reflection for all the care-takers out there. The mothers, fur-mama's and women in relationships who spend most of their time caring and holding space for other people (whether it be your partner, children, family, or in your friendships).

I want to ask you a question:

Where are you on the priority list of your life?

​Recently, I had to ask myself this question. And it's VERY interesting what came up!
 
Last week my husband and I decided to invest in private 1:1 coaching for our son (who is 10yo) for a sport he loves. This coaching would help him to build more confidence and fine tune his skills. I did my research, got a referral, and the quote came back at $200 for a number of sessions. 

It was literally a split-second decision - YES, let's do it!

Within 24hrs the first session was set up. It was a "no-brainer" for us to spend $200 on our son's progression in this sport, his happiness is high on our priority list.
​

On the flipside, I reflected on how I would have responded if the tables were turned a few years ago. I wondered how long it would have taken me to DECIDED to spend that same $200 on myself??


Perhaps you could ask yourself the same thing?

I can tell you, the decision would have taken wayyyy longer than 24hrs!! My mind would have been spinning thinking about all the justifications, the pro's and con's, in an attempt to ward off the overwhelming feeling of... GUILT.
​
"I can't do that, I can't spend that much on myself... it's too much! I'll find another way. I'll get another quote. I'll wait to see if I REALLY NEED IT."
​

Picture

You may have had a similar response or mindset too?

I've had clients tell me they're kids are always dressed in the best clothes - yet they're still wearing those old shoes with the hole in them they bought 5 years ago!
​
Or, they'll even pay for the finest food, toys and new beds for they're fur babies - yet they're still using a broken hair brush from 2012!

Or, they won't even blink an eye at loaning a family member or friend money to support their idea or dream - yet won't do the same for themselves!
​

WHY ARE WE LIKE THIS??

Honestly, I believe it comes down to priority and self-value. Where we place ourselves on our own priority list matters.

We forget about how important it is to invest in ourselves, in our own progression, healing and growth.

I can tell you that in every decision I used to make - I was at the bottom of my priority list.
Somehow in my role as the "responsible care-taker" in my immediate and extended family I thought else's needs came before mine.

What I came to realise (after hitting a rock bottom with my mental health in 2017!) is that my needs and taking care of myself HAD to come FIRST.

I needed to be a top priority in my life, instead of bottom of the list.
​

If I couldn't make myself a priority and voice my needs - then how would anyone else ever make me a priority too? 
​


​My last questions for you is this:

How can you move yourself up the priority list this week

  • Understand where you are on your own priority list
  • Put time and energy into shifting your mindset focusing on your needs
  • Release the guilt & do the thing!

​And if you have any questions or comments on how to get started - please reach out!


Picture
About the Author: 
Janel Briggs is an Author, Mindset Coach, Practitioner of NLP and Timeline Therapy on a mission to support women across the world in overcoming their  anxiety - personal insecurities and professional fears - to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. Mindset Coaching aims to help you fearlessly elevate your life and career, and more importantly the relationship you have with yourself! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

Picture
0 Comments
read more
Back to Blog

When Christmas Isn't Sparking JOY

18/12/2023

 
This time of year can bring up big emotions for people. 

Not only do we have the overwhelming rush to the end of year finish line, but we also have so much added stress with “Christmas is coming”. 

I want you to know that if you are not joyously cruising into Christmas and the end of year, it’s OK.
You are not alone.  
Picture

You're not a bad person or the “Christmas Grinch”.  ​

​You’re probably just extremely overwhelmed, burnt out, beyond tired and perhaps at capacity with everyone and everything!

Christmas and the new year often brings up anxiety!  

I know this feeling. I spent a few years of my life dreading Christmas day and  the stress that comes from juggling “family relationships" and having to “act normal” when I felt way less than normal.  

It’s plain hard to be joyful when your mind feels scrambled and you've got zero energy left in the tank.  
​
Not to mention that pressure of staring down the road to 2024 … thinking what am I doing with my life? Why am I still so far away from where I should be? And how the hell am I going grin and bear it and avoid these questions from people at all those Christmas parties?! 
​
Picture

If you resonate with any of this, here is an approach for you

​If you resonate with any of this, here is an approach for you:

Honour your feelings. 
 
It’s OK to be feeling this way, there are many other who feel the same right now too but probably aren't talking about it.
There’s no doubt you’ve been juggling a lot this year and likely just need time and space to process your thoughts, feelings and emotions.  

It’s ok to say No. 
 
I remember one year when my family asked me to host Christmas Day lunch and I was struggling with my mental health. My anxiety immediately triggered at the thought of seeing everyone in my home roll up with Esky’s full of alcohol and drinking all day.
I knew that my head and nervous system could not handle any alcohol fueled arguments or stress.  
 
So, with the help of my mentor I crafted some words to create a boundary that honoured my feelings. I wrote to each family member and told them I would host, but if it was at my house, it would be an alcohol-free day. They agreed, respected my wishes and came along. They ate the food, opened presents, left early and went on to be merry somewhere else!
By all accounts for me it was a GREAT DAY. Zero anxiety, and lots of laughs. 

Focus on self-care.    

Perhaps this is what your holiday break is about, a time for rest and recharge rather than all the Christmas ‘tis. Less giving energy out, more recouping energy in. Do things that bring you comfort and relaxation.

You don’t have to have it all figured out by December 31st.  

In actual fact December 31 is just another day in the calendar. Take a breath and release the pressure. Everything will work itself out in time. Go slow and be kind to yourself.  Ande let this be your reminder to take a breather. You can and you will get to that end of year finish line. 

 
And please take care out there, if you're stressed and emotions are high remember that there are many others that are too. 

All the best,
​JB.

Picture
​About the Author: 

Janel Briggs is an Author, Mindset Coach, Practitioner of NLP and Timeline Therapy on a mission to support women across the world in overcoming their  anxiety - personal insecurities and professional fears - to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. Mindset Coaching aims to help you fearlessly elevate your life and career, and more importantly the relationship you have with yourself! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

0 Comments
read more
Back to Blog

Tapping Into the Magic Within You

9/10/2023

 
Picture
In my line of work it's common for me to see women grappling with self-doubt. Sadly, this lack in belief can be the major cause of our stress, anxiety, burnout and even depression. 

We seem to live in a world where women feel there is a persona or invisible achievement list they have to live up to in order to be "worthy" or "valued".

Watching the Barbie movie recently, this became even more clear to me. (Have you seen it? What did you think of it?)

The gremlin thoughts in our mind often make us feel that if we don't look like THIS, or have THAT, or achieve THIS, then we're failing, "not good enough" or will "never be good enough".

It's a pressure that is hard to comprehend and manage. 

And, if we've experienced knock backs at any stage of our life or career, the journey to quiet the gremlins and get back to self-confidence can be super challenging. 

But I am here to remind you that this journey back to your true self, can also be incredibly rewarding. 
​

Within each and every one of us, there exists a reservoir of magic waiting to be tapped into. Special qualities, characteristics, talents, and brilliance that once recognised helps to light up the world in small or big ways.

Learning how to unlock our magic is how we overcome self-doubt. Your magic sparkles from your qualities, strengths, values and known accomplishments.  ​

Picture
If you're on this journey now - I have created a visual thought starter for you. Take a blank piece of paper, grab a pen, and divide your page into four. Ask yourself each of these questions, and fill in a few dot points for each box.
Confidence blooms from deeply knowing and understanding yourself, embracing your unique qualities, and acknowledging your accomplishments. These elements will help you to go onto look at pursuing your passions.

Mindset Coaching: The Key to Unleashing More of Your Magic

Mindset coaching is a powerful tool that empowers women to shift their perspective, challenge their limiting beliefs, and develop the confidence to pursue their goals.

Here's how THRIVE mindset coaching can further help you tap into the magic within YOU:

1)  Identifying Limiting Beliefs

  • Mindset coaching starts by identifying and acknowledging the limiting beliefs that fuel self-doubt. These beliefs often stem from past experiences, societal expectations, or comparisons with others.
  • By recognising these beliefs, you can begin to break free from their grip and learn how to replace them instead with empowering thoughts.

2)  Cultivating Self-Awareness

  • Self-awareness is a cornerstone of mindset coaching. It involves understanding your thoughts, emotions, and triggers. 
  • When you know yourself and how you operate, it becomes easier to recognise when self-doubt starts to creep in and take steps to counteract it.

3) Shifting Negative Self-Talk

  • The inner dialogue we have with ourselves plays a significant role in self-doubt. Mindset coaching helps women replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations and self-compassion.
  • Instead of saying, "I can't do this," you'll learn to say, "I am capable, and worthy and deserving of THIS (and everything else!)."

4) Setting Empowering Goals

  • Mindset coaching encourages women to dream about the future and set realistic yet challenging goals for yourself.
  • These goals become stepping stones towards building the life and world you want to see and feel. Each small step reinforces your belief in your abilities and brings you closer to unleashing your inner magic.

5) Building Resilience

  • Stress resilience is a crucial trait in overcoming self-doubt. Mindset coaching teaches you to view setbacks as opportunities for growth rather than failures.
  • When you bounce back from challenges, you'll discover a newfound strength within yourself.

Your inner magic is wating to shine. Remember, you are capable and worthy of achieving greatness!
1:1 Mindset Coaching

Honour your uniqueness, own your story, and believe in your capabilities. THIS level of radical self-acceptance is where the magic sparkles within you!


Picture


​About the Author: Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in overcoming their professional anxieties, imposter syndrome, fears and insecurities to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. Mindset Coaching is about learning how to  become fearless and level up your life and career! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

0 Comments
read more
Back to Blog

Flip the Script: How to Rewrite A Bad Day

28/8/2023

 
Ever noticed how one little change can set off a chain reaction that shakes up your whole day?

Seriously, it's crazy how something as small as a negative thought, or a random comment from someone's grumpy mood can turn a great start, into a bad day.


Think about it - ever had one of those mornings where you woke up on the wrong side of the bed?


>> Maybe you spilled your coffee, missed your bus, or your child had a stage 5 meltdown over his corn flakes (true story! lol).


And then, BAM!


That bad mood tags along like a dark cloud, messing with your interactions and choices all day long.


It's like that one negative morning experience defines ALL the experiences of your day.


And your thoughts then decide to throw a party and invite all your complaining friends in to gripe all day.

On the flip side have you also noticed how one tiny 'thank you' or a kind compliment can turn things around and give your mood a 180-degree boost. 

​
 It's like a burst of sunshine breaking through the clouds.

Suddenly, you're smiling, your steps feel lighter, and you're ready to take on the world!
Picture

But here's the cool part. We do have a choice; you can choose to react and response, OR NOT.

We often feel like we have NO CONTROL over they day, our mood or emotions. So we go on reacting and responding to everyone and everything around us. 

Imagine what could happen if we stopped giving the negative experience, thought or comment energy??

Here's a few examples of how to flip the script in your mind and rewrite the day:

-> Your spill your coffee - old thought: "I am such and idiot, I don't have time for this, this is going to ruin my day!" (self-criticism)

New thought: "Woops, well that is annoying - I'll go change now." (compassion)

You encounter someone who is rude/grumpy - old thought: "What a jerk, how dare they speak to me like that, why did they have to X - I'm so mad!" (transferred anger)

New thought: "Wow, they must be having a rough day" (deflect the emotion)

Missed the bus - old thought: "Oh great, now I'm late and today is going to hell." (frustration)

New thought: "That's ok, I'll just have to get the next one - nothing else I can do." (acceptance)

And, for the women who just feel like they wake up on the "wrong side of the bed" every day ...

Picture

​Learn to Thrive ... my morning journal is the ONLY answer for that!

Here's why:

Every day you have the opportunity to rewrite your day, by following the prompts to set an intention for your day.
​

You begin your day with  his simple intention affirmation:

"Today I will .... "

  • Be calm and patient with myself today
  • Focus on the good in my life
  • Be responsible for my own emotions
  • Stay in my own emotional lane

By creating an intention for your day you flip the script and become the writer, instead of the audience. I know it seems TOO SIMPLE to be true, but it works. 

Try it, and see?

Ask yourself this:

What is my intention for this week? What quality do I want to bring into today?

​


Picture
0 Comments
read more
Back to Blog

Self-Care Doesn't Have to Be Expensive

21/8/2023

 
In the midst of today's economic challenges, it's understandable that when things get tough, taking care of ourselves often slips to the VERY bottom of the priority list.

Everyone, and everything else comes first, I get it.

But I want to remind you of two important things - when life/financial/relationship/work stress is high:

  1. We're on a fast track to burnout (if we stop focusing on our own needs)
  2. Self-care doesn't have to be expensive!

Of course, day-spa's and weekend retreats, and nights out with the girls are amazing! But in truth, THE BEST self-care looks like:
 
Setting strong & healthy boundaries around your energy and time!
 
Boundaries are literally the decision you make to put yourself first, even when life is crazy. It's where I say: 

"This is the energy I will allow in/or the energy output I have capacity for right now"

And if you have a tendency to be a people pleaser, have a hyper focus on external validation, or someone who NEVER puts themselves first...

I've got a little "Boundaries Bingo Card" ready for you!
Picture
​Snapshot that bingo card and this week I would love to inspire you to choose one bubble. Make that one non-expensive thing your self-care focus for this week.

And perhaps we need to take a page out of the Baby Boomer's book on the ​ART OF SAYING NO!

Picture
Image & research credit: Thriving Centre of Psychology
These stats are crazy right? 65% of women have trouble saying No! 

Why is it so hard to set boundaries and just say no?

​As the research above states it comes down to a feeling of GUILT + OBLIGATION.

It's high time to flip the switch on that.

"If you’re feeling boxed into doing things you don’t want to do, don’t continue the cycle. Now more than ever is the time to prioritize your mental health and your happiness. At the end of the day, that’s what is most important!" - Thriving Centre of Psychology

Recently coming off a 7 week summer school break for my son here in Singapore (with a lack of  affordable school holiday programs) I was chatting to another Mum about how we've coped.
​
She said "Wow, you've got strong boundaries!" I said yes absolutely. I've hit burnout enough times(!) to learn what I need to operate at my best, and now I honour that.

These are some of the self-care habits that I stick to. 
​

Self-Care habits (without the price expensive tag):

  • ​Taking a long bath/shower with a home facial and shaving your legs
  • Not skipping breakfast, or sitting to drink your coffee while it's hot in peace
  • Asking someone to look after your kids/pets while you take a breather (walk, gym class, etc)
  • Not booking back-to-back big days when your energy is already spent
  • Scheduling those health appts that have been on the bottom of the list forever
  • Not answering someones call when you don't have the energy or time
  • Saying 'No' to people, places and things that aren't in alignment with what you want

Remember, you're worth every effort you invest in yourself. 


Life is always going to be busy, and I know you probably don't have the time, energy,  or resources right now for self-care. 

But if you don't put yourself on the priority list now... who else will? 

Any comments or questions, please reach out.

Picture

About the Author: Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in healing their professional anxieties, insecurities and imposter syndrome to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. The goal is to level up your life and career by learning how to to live fearless and anxiety free! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

0 Comments
read more
Back to Blog

Busy Isn't Always Better

14/8/2023

 
Have you inadvertently fallen into the trap of becoming addicted to that constant state of being busy?

​We've grown accustomed to this continual rush, over-committed on the move.

And I get it, there is always so much to do. Work, home, family, life. We live in an "on demand" society, where everything is urgent, and everyone expects everything to be done yesterday.

Now, I'm not saying being busy is inherently bad. We definitely have learned how to multi-task and get sh*t done!

But let's be real - when we are sucked into this whirlwind of non-stop activity, we often disregard own own well-being and miss out on the subtle signals our own bodies are trying to send us.
​

Research shows that a third of Australian’s are under “chronic time stress”.

  • About 38 per cent of women report being chronically time stressed – that is, they feel rushed for time “often” or “almost always”
  • The most time stressed people in Australia are the 35 to 44 age group where almost half report being chronically time stressed.
  • In the 25 to 34 and 45 to 54 age groups, about 42 per cent report being chronically time stressed.
  • Having children aged under 15 is highly correlated with higher levels of perceived time stress.
  • Women with two or more children are 15 to 25 per cent more likely to feel chronically time stressed compared with women with no children.

​Higher levels of time stress are correlated with worse mental health, lower self-rated health, less exercise and lower life satisfaction. (sourced: https://pursuit.unimelb.edu.au/articles/a-third-of-australians-under-chronic-time-stress)

​And have you ever noticed that after a crazy stretch of hectic months, the moment you finally give yourself a break, take a vacation or even just a single day off - you end up falling sick?

Here's why:

  1. Biologically, when stress kicks in, our bodies pump out more cortisol, that key stress hormone. And when cortisol is in overdrive, it can decrease our immune system.
  2. Physically, what happens when we take a break? We stop. It's almost like our body says "PHEW! She's quiet! But for how long??". Sickness is a forceful stop to reset and recharge.
Picture
So, my message is this: Busy isn't always better.

Could "busy" taking you away from something you don't want to deal with? What is your constant "need to be busy" behaviour telling you?

Take a moment to reflect today:
  • Are you using busyness as a way to avoid addressing certain aspects of your life?
  • What messages might your body be trying to communicate to you that you've been missing due to your busy schedule?
  • Where can you quiet the busy in your life and truly connect with your needs again? 

And let's stop wearing "busy" like a badge of honour and telling each other how busy we are. I would much rather hear about how quiet, content and happy you've been!

The truth is, when your life is jam packed – you’ll be less likely to have time to be present from the multi-tasking and external noise.  And being present is the place where feel MORE happiness, joy and contentment. What’s more important?

Janel Briggs

If you need support to help you release stress and calm your mind check out my free guided meditation here for relaxation.

Picture

About the Author: Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in healing their professional anxieties, insecurities and imposter syndrome to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. The goal is to level up your life and career by learning how to to live fearless and anxiety free! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

0 Comments
read more
<<Previous
Useful Links

Shop
About
Coaching
Free Affirmations List​
Home
Get in touch

Email: [email protected]
Picture
Picture
Stay Connected
Subscribe and be the first to access new coaching content, news & updates.
    By clicking “I accept” you confirm that you have read and accepted Janel Briggs’ Privacy Policy and Privacy Collection Notice.
Subscribe
Collection Notice    |     Privacy Policy    |    Terms and Conditions