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When Life Turns Upside Down: Recognizing a Lifequake

6/11/2024

 

Have you ever had that sinking feeling that life, as you know it was crumbling beneath your feet?

Yes well, that’s exactly what I've felt this year.

I most certainly did not have a “Lifequake” on my bingo card for 2024. Predonimantly caused by a decision my family made to move from my beloved Singapore in Asia, to Florida, USA for my husband's job mid-year. 

Navigating this move seemed easy on the "outlook". But throw in a steep learning curve on natural disasters as we were thrust into two major hurricane evacuations upon arrival, a lengthy furniture shipment delay leaving us in an empty house, two personal injuries (one after the other!) that had me hobbling for weeks, AND just last week a bout of emergency surgery for my son's appendicitis...

I'm just about all out of "sanity" by this point!

The bigger issue here - all of these challenges have meant I've needed to pause and take time off launching my coaching into the USA timezone to reacquaint my nervous system with:

a) my new environment, and
b) this ever evolving version of myself

If you’ve ever felt or experienced something like a “lifequake” before - you'll know there is only one way to explain it... 

It’s extremely UNCOMFORTABLE!

And of course, life must go on, so you do your best to keep things together. While feeling like the LIFE you had carefully constructed is slowly but surely falling apart under your feet.
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What is a Lifequake?

A lifequake is more than just a life change; it’s a deep, pivotal shift that redefines your path and perspective.  

  • Lifequakes often come uninvited and without warning, shaking the very core of who you are and how you see yourself.
  • Think of it like a personal earthquake that affects not just your outer world but also your inner sense of stability and direction. 
  • Most people go through at least three in their lifetime. Some are planned, like changing careers or starting a family, while others are unexpected, like a sudden illness, complex grief or the end of a marriage.  

​Lifequakes tend to mark the start of a transitional phase, one that can last months or even years, where you’re adjusting to a “new normal.” 

How to Recognize When You're In A Lifequake Transition

From my personal experience, the first step to navigating a lifequake is to recognize that you’re actually in one!

Sometimes we’re so caught up in the busy stress of every day life that we don’t even realize we’re going through a transformation.

Here are some signs you may be in a life transition: 
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  1. Uncertainty about the Future: The goals or identity that once felt “concrete” and guided you, no longer hold the same relevance. You find yourself unsure of what you want, and with so much “change” the future you envisioned feels less certain.  
  2. Overwhelming Emotions: Life transitions often bring a surge of emotions, ranging from anxiety, sadness and grief to frustration and confusion. It’s as if you’re shedding an old skin, and it can feel uncomfortable. 
  3. Questioning Your Identity: When lifequakes strike, they often shake the foundations of our “sense of self”. You may start questioning who you are, especially if the change disrupts roles that have defined you, such as being a spouse, in a specific profession, or a playing a role within your family unit. \
  4. Feeling Stuck or Directionless: You’re moving forward, but it feels like you’re wading through mud. You might feel lost or trapped between who you used to be and who you’re becoming.
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My biggest learning from this entire experience...

Lifequakes, as challenging as they are, have a way of guiding us toward growth and new possibilities.

Even if they don’t reveal the full picture right away.  

This transition can feel overwhelming, but please know it’s also an invitation to  perhaps rediscover yourself and redefine what truly matters for you at this stage of your life. 

In my blog next week (yes, there is a Part 2!)...

I’ll share simple mindset shifts you can make that will help you find more clarity, resilience, and purpose as you navigate through this season of change. 

It's the exact things I’ve been doing this year that have helped me immensly. 

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Transforming Dreams into Reality: Celebrating 5 Years!

23/10/2023

 
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Wow - it's a big Mindset Monday for me.

Celebrating 5 years of Thrive Mindset Coaching!

It blows my mind that I have been helping women to transform their mindset and their lives (busting fear and anxiety) for five whole years.  

This has by far been the most rewarding career I’ve ever had. But it wasn’t something I planned, I literally fell into it after my own life was transformed by an NLP trained mindset coach. 

5 years ago, I met a woman who breathed life into me. 

She showed me I was deserving and worthy of so much more than I was showing up for in my life. She saw a light in me that I didn’t even know existed. My light had been dimmed to dark for so long from “just surviving”.

All it took was for 1 person to say “I believe in you, your story can help people” for me to wake up.  

People (friends and family) probably thought I was crazy; in the 3 years prior to launching Thrive Mindset Coaching, I had quit my lucrative 15-year corporate career and built 3 online businesses that were all flailing... along with my anxiety and mental health.
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Plus, back then no one even understood what a mindset coach was or did! You want to be what… um ok are you sure?? 
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Early days finding my feet on Instagram Linkedin and You Tube.
But, no matter what people thought or said I couldn’t shake the burning desire in me to help support people.

To pay forward the gifts of knowledge, belief and hope I had been given. 

That is why this milestone feels so incredible.

​As a person who often gave up when conditions weren’t perfect or if the voice of my inner critic told me I was going to fail. “Who are you to do this work? You’re no expert! Your life isn’t perfect.” 
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I NEVER gave up! 

5 Valuable Lessons Learned in 5 Years of Coaching:

  1. Follow the work, people, situations in life that light you up and make you feel good. This is how you’ll know you are in alignment. 
  2. It’s never too late, there is always time. I started a new career at 41 and it worked out better than I could have imagined! 
  3. Don’t give up on yourself – accept what is not working and just move on. There is no failure, only feedback. 
  4. There is always a way forward, you may not see the path straight away but that’s ok. Things take time and maybe it’s a sign to go within and do the inner work first. 
  5. Keep dreaming – and if you don’t believe in yourself then find a coach/person who’ll share their belief until you build yours!
To my incredible coaching clients, every course participant, journal customer, workshop attendee and my tribe over on Instagram, Linkedin and Facebook - thank you for every video you watched, post or blog you've read!

Your presence means the world to me. 

Cheers to the next 5! 

​Janel Briggs.

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 Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in overcoming their professional anxieties, imposter syndrome, fears and insecurities to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. Mindset Coaching is about learning how to  become fearless and level up your life and career!
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In Times of World Crisis: Navigating the Storm Together

15/10/2023

 

Phew... well, this past week has been A LOT to process, hasn't it?
 
I've felt it too, the sense of confusion, helplessness, and overwhelming emotions from witnessing a world and people in crisis. Sick to my stomach reading and listening to the news, hearing the division and clash of words, opinions, and beliefs all over social media on topics that are far away and closer to home.
 
As we’ve seen for hundreds and thousands of years, division brings destruction. Sadly, I have no solution or answers for you.

But I do know that we’ll never be able to right the wrongs of the past with the same thinking that got us here. Often in times like these, when the world-fear and anxiety storm rages I get a little quieter. I go inward to reflect, process my emotions, pray for humanity and peace, and I count my blessings.
 
 I also put in place a few essential practices that assist my mindset:

  
  • Unfollow – it’s ok to mute or unfollow people on social media. If a person's opinions, beliefs or values differ and their content triggers you  just step away. No amount of "reasoning" will ever change their opinion or belief system.

  • Limit the time - it’s also ok to place boundaries around people you will and won’t see if there is potential for conversations that trigger you. Your peace and serenity is most important.

  • Reduce news/social media – checking in once a day, during the middle of the day is my best advice. Waking up in bed scrolling as soon as your eyes open to read the horrific news, or right before you shut your eyes for sleep (when you are less emotionally resilient) isn’t great for your mindset. Even further, when I feel “raw” I ask my husband to filter the news for me and just give me the high level facts.
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  • Journalling – write out your feelings. As simple as it sounds it’s extremely powerful to get the thoughts and emotions circling in your mind released onto paper. This is the process I share with clients in coaching: “Dear X (person, community, country etc) this is what I have to say to you …” and let your pen flow let it all out.

  • Spead loving-kindness – you may not be able to affect what’s happening in the world on the wider scale, but you can impact the community around us with your good energy. We are all humans living on the same earth, we can pray for unity, peace and humanity.

If you're struggling with feelings of hopelessness and sadness from the weight of division in our world I recorded a special meditation for your this week. It's based on an ancient practice that cultivates goodwill and universal friendliness towards oneself and others. 

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After I have done all I can to tackle my emotions and educate myself on a tough problem, this recording helps me to re-focus my mind and nurture my spirit.
Then I'll perhaps take a walk, listen to music, meet a friend for a chat, eat something nutritious, read a good book, go for a bike ride or take a nap. These are all constructive ways to support my mindset to fill time that might otherwise have been wasted on worry about all the uncontrollable's in our world today. 
​Take care, JB

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​About the Author:
 Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in overcoming their professional anxieties, imposter syndrome, fears and insecurities to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. Mindset Coaching is about learning how to  become fearless and level up your life and career!
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You can't change them (but you can do this)

25/9/2023

 
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​Have you ever found yourself wishing that someone in your life would change, thinking it would make everything so much better?
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Many women experience stress, mental and emotional strain as a direct result of the other people's behaviours and actions. 
 
"IF ONLY he/she would do THIS, then everything would be OK!"
  • Stop drinking or smoking
  • Save more money
  • Looked after their health
  • Got a new job with less stress
  • Fixed their (XYZ).
  • Listened to me more!
 
If they would just make "this change" then our life would greatly improve, and I could stop worrying. I know, how amazing would it be if the people we cared about would do what we want them to all the time!!

But here's the sad truth: You can't force anyone to change.

​No matter how much you want it for them or love them, what you say or do for them... only they can DECIDE to make changes in their life.

You cannot control their choices or outcomes. And all that pushing will ultimately cause you more resentment, heartache, stress and pain. 

Which I know is a super hard to hear. I've been there too.

I have multiple people in my life today I would LOVE to see change their ways - but a decade of trying to change them broke me and I had to learn to let it go.
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I've also seen this frustration in a few of my past coaching clients' relationships. Where women who have journeyed on the path of self-discovery for themsleves now want the same for their partner, sibling, child, or partent. However, in attempting to push them to "see the light" and change their habits and behaviours, they've ended up causing themselves angst.

This is what I can share: You can't change them, but you can be the inspiration for their change.

​Perhaps even a catalyst, by showing them what is possible. The decision for someone to change their life has to be their own, otherwise the transormation may be fleeting or won't stick long term. 

If you can't walk the path for them, what can you do?

Continue to focus on your own personal growth and well-being. Be the light in their life. From my experience it takes patience, but in time you may notice small shifts and improvements both in your life and theirs.

Here are 5 actions you can take:
  1. Accept what is: Acceptance and understanding will always help to remove the negative charge, or feelings within you. Start by reflecting on your own feelings and expectations. Accept that you can't control another person's actions or decisions. Embrace the reality that people will continue to make their own choices.
  2. Communicate your needs: Engage in open and honest communication with the person in question. Share your thoughts and feelings, but do so without trying to force them to change. Instead, aim to understand each other better and find a common ground and let them know what you need in the relationship.
  3. Set boundaries: Establish clear healthy boundaries that protect your well-being and values. These boundaries are life fences that keep out the the energy and behavior you will not allow into your space. Rather than trying to make the other person change you may have to change what you can control a) how much time you spend with them b) when and where you will spend time with them c) topics you will or will not talk about etc.
  4. Lead by example: Be the change you want them to see. Demonstrate the behaviors and values you believe in. Sometimes, your actions can inspire others to become "willing" to change
  5. Prioritise yourself: Focus on taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically. Seek support from friends, family, a coach or therapist if needed. Your well-being should be a top priority, regardless of whether someone else changes or not.
Remember, while you can't necessarily change someone else, you have the power to change yourself and influence the dynamics of your relationships through your own actions and choices.


​True power is found in changing ourselves and inspiring the change we wish to see in others.
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 Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in overcoming their professional anxieties, imposter syndrome, fears and insecurities to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. Mindset Coaching is about learning how to  become fearless and level up your life and career!
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Shining a Light on Suicide Prevention: Hope, Help, and Healing

11/9/2023

 
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*TRIGGER WARNING* In honour of World Suicide Prevention Day (Sep 10th 2023) This email talks about grief in losing a loved one to suicide, and how you can support someone you love through a mental health crisis.
Three years ago, I tragically lost my dearest friend to suicide.

A beautiful fun-loving soul, the kind of woman who had a smile and laughter that lit up the room. We connected on a deep level, even though she was 12 years younger. I think it’s because we shared similar personal, life and spiritual values. We had an interest in so many of the same things, from learning and travel, to cooking and our love for animals. We loved nothing more than to go for lunch in a cosy cafe and sit chatting for hours over cups of tea.

Her tragic death taught me many lessons about life, the world, the medical system and myself.

I've come to realise the hardest part of grief, in losing someone you love to suicide - is the guilt.

Could I, should I … have done more?

The answer in the mind is always yes. If I had my time again of course I would do so many things differently. 

But, in my heart I know I did the best I could at the time.

Part of the healing process has been to look at my actions and reactions in this event with my mentor and she taught me something extremely important:

Hindsight is a beautiful thing, but no amount of overthinking it will bring peace or bringher back. Acceptance is the key to healing.

I’ve come to realise that my fear of “losing her” in her mental and physical health battle kept my mind clouded and captive.  My voice of fear said:

“What if I say the wrong thing and she dies? I don’t know the answers for how to help her in THIS pain”.

Instead of tuning into my voice of wisdom: 

“You can never say the wrong thing when it comes from a place of love. What if you say the right thing and she lives?”.
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This is why I am so passionate about helping women with anxiety to learn how to quiet their voice of fear and tap into the loving kindness of their intuition, their voice of wisdom. 
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By encouraging, understanding, reaching in, and sharing experiences with others, Suicide Prevention Day is about giving people confidence to take action to prevent suicide


​Grief, as you probably know if you've experienced the it, has this way of stripping your heart bare to the darkest depths of your soul. And somehow over time your heart begins to slowly mend the cracks.

I guess is the power of healing and love. 
​But, you are for sure never the same person again. 

The anniversary of her passing each year coinciding with World Suicide Prevention week every September I know as a message for me to remember to, and not be afraid to, tell her story.
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I will continue to bring light where I can to the darkness. She is worth it, and so are you.

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This is a message for anyone who has a loved one or friend who struggles with their mental health.

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HOW YOU CAN HELP SOMEONE YOU LOVE IN A
​MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS
 

1.      Listen with compassion, remind them they are not alone and support is available today.

“How would you like me to support you?” or “What can I do to best support you today?”

2.      Help them to put a positive action plan in place to speak with their Doctor, Psychologist or mental health professional as soon as possible.

Remember that this is not solely up to you to fix, it may take a village of support and some time and space for that work to happen.

3.      Add the local mental health support hotline phone number in their phone.

Make the first call with them if needed and start the conversation for them.

“Hello, this is X she has been feeling X and we are looking for some support”

4.      Understand that people in a mental health crisis with suicidal thoughts are typically experiencing an intense negative emotional pain that they just can’t get rid of and this pain feels so big that they don’t know how to move past it.

This pain often makes them feel helpless without options. Ask a few questions to get a feel for the emotional pain or intense stress they are experiencing. Sharing this information with the hotline or medical professional can be helpful.

5.      Do not keep this a secret.

​This is very important. I know there is a stigma and shame attached to suicidal thoughts within our communities. We have to break down these isolating walls. Secrets will only ever keep a person sick. We must bring the dark thoughts into the light in order to have any chance of healing and moving forward

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MENTAL HEALTH FIRST AID

(Training for adults and parents/caregivers of children teens)

Knowledge and resources are what help us to feel more confident and empowered in stressful situations. Did you know there are courses you can take in mental health first aid? Available online for anyone who is interested in learning more about how to support someone through a mental health crisis.

My recommendation for quality online education for understanding mental illness and wellbeing is Meraki Mental Health Training.

​Learn more here:
MENTAL HEALTH FIRST AID TRAINING

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MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS HOTLINES AROUND THE WORLD

​If you or someone you love is having suicidal thoughts, get in touch with one of these amazing and supportive organisations:
 
AUSTRALIA
Lifeline – 13 11 14
Suicide Call Back Service – 1300 659 467
Beyond Blue Counsellor – 1300 22 46 36
 
SINGAPORE
Samaritans of Singapore - 1-767
WhatsApp – 9151 1767
Mental Health Crisis- 6389 2222
 
NEW ZEALAND
Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (text 4357)
Mental Health Foundation – 1737 (call or text)
Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865
 
UK
Suicide Prevention UK – 0800 689 5652
Samaritans – 116 123
CALM (evenings)– 0800 58 58 58
 
USA
Crisis Text line – 741741
Lifeline – 988
SAMHA National Helpline – 1 800 662 4357
 
CANADA
Talk Suicide Canada – 1 833 456 4566
The Listening Ear – 517 337 1717 

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Self-Care Doesn't Have to Be Expensive

21/8/2023

 
In the midst of today's economic challenges, it's understandable that when things get tough, taking care of ourselves often slips to the VERY bottom of the priority list.

Everyone, and everything else comes first, I get it.

But I want to remind you of two important things - when life/financial/relationship/work stress is high:

  1. We're on a fast track to burnout (if we stop focusing on our own needs)
  2. Self-care doesn't have to be expensive!

Of course, day-spa's and weekend retreats, and nights out with the girls are amazing! But in truth, THE BEST self-care looks like:
 
Setting strong & healthy boundaries around your energy and time!
 
Boundaries are literally the decision you make to put yourself first, even when life is crazy. It's where I say: 

"This is the energy I will allow in/or the energy output I have capacity for right now"

And if you have a tendency to be a people pleaser, have a hyper focus on external validation, or someone who NEVER puts themselves first...

I've got a little "Boundaries Bingo Card" ready for you!
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​Snapshot that bingo card and this week I would love to inspire you to choose one bubble. Make that one non-expensive thing your self-care focus for this week.

And perhaps we need to take a page out of the Baby Boomer's book on the ​ART OF SAYING NO!

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These stats are crazy right? 65% of women have trouble saying No! 

Why is it so hard to set boundaries and just say no?

​As the research above states it comes down to a feeling of GUILT + OBLIGATION.

It's high time to flip the switch on that.

"If you’re feeling boxed into doing things you don’t want to do, don’t continue the cycle. Now more than ever is the time to prioritize your mental health and your happiness. At the end of the day, that’s what is most important!" - Thriving Centre of Psychology

Recently coming off a 7 week summer school break for my son here in Singapore (with a lack of  affordable school holiday programs) I was chatting to another Mum about how we've coped.
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She said "Wow, you've got strong boundaries!" I said yes absolutely. I've hit burnout enough times(!) to learn what I need to operate at my best, and now I honour that.

These are some of the self-care habits that I stick to. 
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Self-Care habits (without the price expensive tag):

  • ​Taking a long bath/shower with a home facial and shaving your legs
  • Not skipping breakfast, or sitting to drink your coffee while it's hot in peace
  • Asking someone to look after your kids/pets while you take a breather (walk, gym class, etc)
  • Not booking back-to-back big days when your energy is already spent
  • Scheduling those health appts that have been on the bottom of the list forever
  • Not answering someones call when you don't have the energy or time
  • Saying 'No' to people, places and things that aren't in alignment with what you want

Remember, you're worth every effort you invest in yourself. 


Life is always going to be busy, and I know you probably don't have the time, energy,  or resources right now for self-care. 

But if you don't put yourself on the priority list now... who else will? 

Any comments or questions, please reach out.

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About the Author: Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in healing their professional anxieties, insecurities and imposter syndrome to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. The goal is to level up your life and career by learning how to to live fearless and anxiety free! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

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Busy Isn't Always Better

14/8/2023

 
Have you inadvertently fallen into the trap of becoming addicted to that constant state of being busy?

​We've grown accustomed to this continual rush, over-committed on the move.

And I get it, there is always so much to do. Work, home, family, life. We live in an "on demand" society, where everything is urgent, and everyone expects everything to be done yesterday.

Now, I'm not saying being busy is inherently bad. We definitely have learned how to multi-task and get sh*t done!

But let's be real - when we are sucked into this whirlwind of non-stop activity, we often disregard own own well-being and miss out on the subtle signals our own bodies are trying to send us.
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Research shows that a third of Australian’s are under “chronic time stress”.

  • About 38 per cent of women report being chronically time stressed – that is, they feel rushed for time “often” or “almost always”
  • The most time stressed people in Australia are the 35 to 44 age group where almost half report being chronically time stressed.
  • In the 25 to 34 and 45 to 54 age groups, about 42 per cent report being chronically time stressed.
  • Having children aged under 15 is highly correlated with higher levels of perceived time stress.
  • Women with two or more children are 15 to 25 per cent more likely to feel chronically time stressed compared with women with no children.

​Higher levels of time stress are correlated with worse mental health, lower self-rated health, less exercise and lower life satisfaction. (sourced: https://pursuit.unimelb.edu.au/articles/a-third-of-australians-under-chronic-time-stress)

​And have you ever noticed that after a crazy stretch of hectic months, the moment you finally give yourself a break, take a vacation or even just a single day off - you end up falling sick?

Here's why:

  1. Biologically, when stress kicks in, our bodies pump out more cortisol, that key stress hormone. And when cortisol is in overdrive, it can decrease our immune system.
  2. Physically, what happens when we take a break? We stop. It's almost like our body says "PHEW! She's quiet! But for how long??". Sickness is a forceful stop to reset and recharge.
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So, my message is this: Busy isn't always better.

Could "busy" taking you away from something you don't want to deal with? What is your constant "need to be busy" behaviour telling you?

Take a moment to reflect today:
  • Are you using busyness as a way to avoid addressing certain aspects of your life?
  • What messages might your body be trying to communicate to you that you've been missing due to your busy schedule?
  • Where can you quiet the busy in your life and truly connect with your needs again? 

And let's stop wearing "busy" like a badge of honour and telling each other how busy we are. I would much rather hear about how quiet, content and happy you've been!

The truth is, when your life is jam packed – you’ll be less likely to have time to be present from the multi-tasking and external noise.  And being present is the place where feel MORE happiness, joy and contentment. What’s more important?

Janel Briggs

If you need support to help you release stress and calm your mind check out my free guided meditation here for relaxation.

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About the Author: Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in healing their professional anxieties, insecurities and imposter syndrome to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. The goal is to level up your life and career by learning how to to live fearless and anxiety free! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

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Beyond the Angry Storm: Understanding and Processing Emotions

31/7/2023

 
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We've all faced moments when emotions surge within us like an angry storm. Emotional outbursts, fiery and fierce in intensity take centre stage and knocks us off our center. Defensive barriers go up, words are said, and actions are taken that don't always leave us feeling good.

What I've learned is that most of the time, it's not really about "the thing" that triggered the angry storm... is it? 
  • It's not really about the coffee cup and dirty dishes someone left in the sink
  • It's not really about the changes at work, or your boss favouring someone else at review time
  • It's not really about the family member's comment or opinion at the last catch up

Although those things are super ANNOYING ... they are just the tip of the iceberg, aren't they?

It's MORE THAN that "one thing" presenting itself... it goes deeper than that.

As a Mindset Coach it's my role to help YOU understand what is laying underneath those icy waters at the base of the iceberg.

Where the anger is in fact fueling from.

Anger itself is largely perceived as a secondary emotion that shows up when we feel we need to defend ourselves.

Most often, it's about OUR NEEDS.

What the anger is usually saying is ... when X happens (at home, work, in this relationship) I don't feel:
valued.
loved.
appreciated.
included.
understood.
seen.
heard.
special.

Am I right??
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​Further reading: great article on anger here. (Image Cred. Monica Vermani C. Psych.)
​LEARNING TO RELEASE & PROCESS  ANGER.

Internalised anger and resentment acts like poison in the body, and  will eventually end up festering and eating away  at the container it is in.

The anger held deep down inside, has to come out sometime. It won't stay locked up forever.

Sudden outbursts, conflicts and arguments begin to show up in other areas of your life for no aparent reason - not just with the person you originally felt angered by.

So, what can you do to release and process before it festers?

How to process emotions is sadly not a skill they teach us at school. I call it a skill because it'rs super important to learn and it takes awareness and practice to master.

In my belief journaling the #1 way to process your emotions. Here's how you can get started:

TUNE INTO THE REAL SOURCE OF YOUR ANGER:

  1. What specifically is causing me to feel angry/irritated/frustrated?

  2. Is it really about this one thing, or is it more than that?

  3. How are my needs are not being met?

  4. Where am I holding anger in my body?
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  5. Acknowledge the true feelings beneath your anger (acceptance) and ask - what do I need to do in order to be at peace?


From here, you'll get clear on the next best course of action.

J A N E L  B R I G G S
Thrive Mindset Coaching


And, as always if you need more guidance please reach out via DM. Learn more about my 1:1 coacing programs here. TimeLine Therapy is an incredible tool for guiding you to release anger (and various other negative emotions) from it's core and get to the root of the problem. 




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​About the Author: Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in healing their professional anxieties, insecurities and imposter syndrome to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. The goal is to level up your life and career by learning how to to live fearless and anxiety free! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

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Take Your Power Back: The Key to Lasting Happiness

12/6/2023

 
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​Have you ever found yourself seeking happiness through external validation?

For years, I placed my happiness in the hands of others, constantly thinking that if certain people or circumstances aligned in a certain way, then I would finally be happy.
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I would catch myself saying things like, "If my parents, sister, husband, son, boss, colleague, or X did THIS, then I would be happy."

I tied my happiness to achieving good grades, receiving recognition at work, earning a promotion, or even reaching specific milestones in my first business.

My joy was dependent on external factors and the validation they provided.

The problem was, and what I've realised through Mindset Coaching, is that MY long term happiness is an internal job... I am the only one that can change it or make it happen.

Yes, the external factors could give me a temporary hit of happiness, BUT they could never give lasting contentment. Here's why:
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* We cannot control the external factors! Or other people's opinion of us

*   We cannot control how much or little someone loves us! Or HOW they specifically show us love

The key was... I had to learn to know, love and accept MYSELF (all facets and parts of me) - in order to find my self-worth and experience a contentment that I never even knew existed.

And the most amazing thing happened, when I stopped seeking external validation...

I got my power back!

​In this video, I share the three crucial steps I took to break free from the cycle of seeking external validation and find true self-worth.

Let me detail the 3 steps I took for you here:

1. Get clear on what is in your control and what isn't

I learned that I cannot control other people's actions, reactions, behaviours or even the way they love and treat me. I cannot control every single outcome, to every situation in my life.

​There will be uncertainty, there will be change, there will be things that do not always go my way. No matter how hard I work or try to make it different. 

I can only control what is within my circle - my mind, my body, my emotions and my behaviours. How I think, reaction and respond is up to me. 

2. Start your day with a focus on self-care

I started my day with a simple shift. In order to love myself fully and build self-worth I need to be the most important person in my world, my needs matter. My own self-care has to be a priority. 

I decided to wake up 15 mins earlier, to sit listening to a short 5 min guided meditation and I did 10 mins of journaling positive affirmations - something I had never done before!  (If you are new to meditation I have a few to help get you started here)

I spent 10 mins stretching and doing yoga, then ate a healthy nourishing breakfast and I listened to music while getting ready for work. 

I found this short 20-30mins of "me-time" first thing in the morning would calm and refocus my mind, before the chaos of the day began.

When I filled my "needs cup" first, I found I wasn't looking to other people or external factors to fill my own needs. 

3. Do one thing this week that brings you JOY

I began a new habit where once a week I would do something that brough me joy - something just for me. Where I didn't have to do anything for anyone else. 

You see, I began to remember who I was outside of all the labels and hats I wore. Outside of the expectations, demands, stress and achievements of work. 

I started to love and reconnect to my inner child, the part of me that had gotten lost from putting all my happiness eggs outside my own basket. The part of me that was waiting for someone else to love, care and adore me, the way I wanted. 

It's an empowering feeling not waiting for someone to give you everything you need.

I began to breathe easier and smile more often. Life felt less heavy and more enjoyable.  

I realise that it had to start with me, just like it has to start with you.

And I am here to tell you - YOU can absolutely do it too. 

​JB

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​About the Author:
 Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in healing their professional anxieties, insecurities and imposter syndrome to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. The goal is to level up your life and career by learning how to to live fearless and anxiety free!
 Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

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5 Simple Questions for Checking in on Your Mental Health

29/5/2023

 
​The most important day, is the day you decide your mental health is what matters most.

Once you create this mindset shift, you'll find quite a few things get easier to manage: 
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  • Setting healthy boundaries
  • Who you will and won't spend time with
  • The problems and drama you'll give your energy to
  • Making decisions about the future

I think so much of the time, as women, we feel like putting ourselves first is somehow selfish. But, it's not. It's actually healthy! How can you continue to give the world from an empty cup?

I certainly couldn't. I was at the rock bottom of my priority list. My cup was so empty when I first recognised my mental health was a problem, I couldn't even muster the energy to get out of bed to feed my 3yo son.

(Tap to listen to my story...)
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Your Mental Health Matters. 

My first (and biggest!) mindset shift was recognising that I was the only person who could actually change that situation.

No one was coming to fix me. No one was coming to save me. 

I had to be the one who decided enough was enough, it was time for something to change.

My wish is that I can empower you with 5 Simple Questions for Checking in on Your Mental Health so that your life doesn’t get to its lowest point, before you decide it’s time for something to change.

Let's get into it:

1. How am I feeling emotionally right now?  

Checking in on your emotional state is an important step in assessing your mental health. Ask yourself:
 
“How am I feeling in this moment?”
“How long have I been feeling this way?”
 
In times of external stress, we often deny our emotions, push them down and say, “I’ll deal with that later, I don’t have the time for this”.
 
The funny thing about emotions is… we have to feel them, to heal them. Our emotions will continue to arise, in small or big ways, until we do.
 
And at some stage they could even become super overwhelming - anxiety, anger, frustration, sadness – derailing you from every day life.

2. Am I taking care of my basic needs?

Mental health is closely intertwined with our body’s wellbeing. Your body may begin to show symptoms of poor mental health before you even realise it consciously. Muscle tension, pain, feeling restless, headaches, insomnia, appetite changes are all key symptoms. Ask yourself:

"Are you getting enough sleep, skipping meals, eating balanced meals, and engaging in regular exercise?"

Neglecting your body’s basic needs can contribute to fatigue and the body’s stress. If you are not well slept and nourished, the mind has less resilience and finds it harder to process stress and emotions.

3. Am I managing stress effectively?

Are you feeling overwhelmed and constantly under pressure?

  • Is the stress from X (work, family, relationships) causing you to reach for sugary foods, alcohol, cigarettes etc, more often?
  • Do you find yourself staying up later binge-watching TV or scrolling your phone to “zone out”.
  • Are you isolating more often from friends and loved ones?

Take a look at your coping mechanisms and self-care practices. Health stress management can be as simple as making time to move your body, meditate, journalling your thoughts or connecting with a friend – after a rough day.

4. How are my relationships influencing my mental health?

Our relationships and the people in our life play a crucial role in our mental health. Ask yourself

“Do you feel supported, valued, and respected?”
“Do the people you spend time with uplift you, or drain you?”
“Is this connection healthy for me right now”?

Perhaps it’s time to create a healthy boundary and/or take some time away from the people who maybe feeling toxic right now, to recoup your energy.

5. Am I engaging in activities that bring me joy and fulfilment?  

When our external stress is at capacity, we forget about the simple act of doing things that bring us joy. If you are giving out all your energy to work, or other people’s problems – life is going to feel bleak really quickly. Ask yourself:
 
“When was the last time I did something just for the fun of it?”
“What is one thing that I could do, to bring more joy into my week?”
 
If you’re looking for ideas for spending quality time with yourself, perhaps try one of these:
  • Take off on an adventure, go on a bike ride
  • Go to see a funny movie
  • Grab a good book and go on a picnic
  • Spend time in nature
  • Baking or cooking (for no particular reason!)
  • Puzzles, painting or crafting
  • Organise dinner with a friend who always makes you laugh

​Remember, checking in on your mental health is an ongoing process. It’s essential to be honest with yourself and seek support if you notice any persistent concerns or challenges.

There is no downside from ever working on your mindset or making some simple chances to your daily habits!

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About the Author:
 Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in healing their professional anxieties, insecurities and imposter syndrome to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. The goal is to level up your life and career by learning how to to live fearless and anxiety free!
 Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

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