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 If you’ve been feeling more anxious, reactive, or emotionally fragile lately, it’s easy to assume you're just not coping as well as you 'should be'. Lashing out when normally we’d be more rational. Taking things more personally and becoming overly sensitive to other people’s comments or opinions. At work, letting doubt set in after small interactions, or assuming the worst in situations we’d usually handle with perspective. Over time, we internalise these reactions as a mindset problem. But it's not, it’s more often a sleep problem. When our nervous system is simply running on empty, it can affect how we think, react, communicate, and interpret the world around us. Think of a toddler who dropped their nap and is overtired? They become the most irrational crying-screaming human being on the planet! Think of a 5 year old who is overstimulated? They become as difficult to rangle as a herd of cats! Adults are very much the same, we just get better at masking it. One of the very first things I help women with in coaching is untangling the sleep puzzle. Because when we can establish a more regular sleep pattern, the shift in emotional resilience and day-to-day steadiness can be surprisingly profound. Sleep is emotional regulation, not recovery alone. Have you ever had a terrible night’s sleep that turned what is normally a manageable day into an emotional rollercoaster?? Where one small inconvenience sparked so much frustration it lead to tears and total overwhelm? Yes, I see you - I've been there too. Why on earth do we react like this?! Research from Harvard Medical School shows that sleep plays a critical role in how the brain processes emotion. During sleep, particularly REM sleep, the brain integrates emotional experiences and lowers their intensity. However, when sleep is compromised:
A 2019 study from the University of California, Berkeley, aptly titled “Overanxious and Underslept” found that insufficient sleep can trigger up to a 30% increase in anxiety levels the following day. What's even more eye opening? The same research showed that deep NREM sleep acts like a natural anxiety inhibitor. During this stage of sleep, the brain calms the emotional centres, lowers physiological stress responses, and prevents anxiety from escalating. In simple terms: deep sleep helps your brain stand down from 'threat' mode. For me, this is proof that sleep isn’t just a “nice to have”. It’s a foundational part of the equation and a practical tool we can use to care for and protect our nervous system. That’s the mindset shift I want you to take away today. Sleep is where emotional experiences are processed - without it, emotions stack up like bricks in a wall. There are only so many bricks we can carry before the wall cracks. Why anxiety spikes when sleep drops When our sleep is discupted, activity increases activity in the amygdala, the brain’s fear and threat detection centre, while reducing regulation from the prefrontal cortex. In real life, this looks like:
This is why women who are already high-functioning, capable, and driven often feel more distressed when sleep drops. Your system is doing its best, but without enough deep sleep, it simply doesn’t have the resources. When I started sleeping better, my anxiety didn’t totally disappear - but it became more manageable again. I seemed to have more resilience and the world felt less against me. Rest is important, but it isn’t the same as sleep Many people believe they’re "resting" while laying on the couch or in bed, but their nervous system disagrees. If you're scrolling, binge-watching TV, or working from bed this still keeps the brain stimulated. The body may be still, but the mind is still processing and remains on alert! True rest (for mind and body) requires disengagement. Generally, reading a book is the lowest stimulation for resting compared to screens, but it still engages the brain. Whether it feels restful or activating comes down to what you’re reading and why you’re reading it. More likely to be restful:
This kind of reading can help the nervous system downshift, especially in the evening and right before bed. Reading that is more likely to be stimulating:
This keeps the brain in processing mode, even if your body is still! If you love personal development books, my advice is always to read those in the morning or during the day, so your brain isn't stimulated at night thinking about all of the things you've just learned. If your body is resting but your mind is still ‘on’ then your system hasn’t stood down. 3 Practical Ways to Support Deeper SleepHere we go, now we're getting into the good stuff. First off, you don’t need a perfect routine but you do need consistency. These three changes alone often create noticeable shifts for my clients: 1. Cut caffeine (and sugar) earlier than you think Caffeine can remain in your system for up to 8 hours. If anxiety or racing thoughts are an issue, aim for no caffeine after 1pm to give your nervous system time to downshift and process the caffeine. That means coffee, green tea, matcha, chai, and most soft drinks. It’s also worth being mindful of heavily sugary foods and drinks. Sugar creates a quick energy spike followed by a slump, which often leads to craving more sugar or caffeine stimulation to “perk up” - keeping your nervous system in a cycle of highs and crashes rather than settling into rest. 2. Remove your phone from the bedroom If you're in the habit of middle of the night wake ups, where you reach for your phone to check emails and notifications during the night, then my number 1 non-negotiable to break that habit (to help you get better quality sleep) is to place your phone in another room when you sleep. Go back to using a traditional alarm clock for your morning alarm. Leave your phone in your en-suite or outside your bedroom door. Even brief screen exposure can spike alertness and make it harder to return to deep sleep. 3. Create a work and screen buffer before bed Aim for no phone at least one hour before sleep, and no work two hours before bed. This creates a healthy boundary around technology and work that sends a clear signal to your brain that the day is complete and it’s safe to rest. Many women also find that a short, guided sleep meditation helps close down the “open tabs” in the mind and relax the body into deeper sleep states. Here's one I recorded for you: "Peaceful Sleep Guided Meditation" No working from bed either! Think of your bedroom as your place of rest, we don't want the brain to be "on" think, think, thinking about all the things happening at work and our to-do list when you're trying to sleep. The mindset shift: Deep sleep is essential for stress, anxiety and emotional resilienceSo how many hours of sleep should you aim for each night? Ideally around eight hours. But if you’re currently averaging closer to six, don’t try to overhaul everything at once. Build your sleep in small, sustainable steps. This week, aim for 6.5 hours and focus on consistency: similar bedtimes in the evening and similar wake-up times in the morning. Small shifts done consistently are what retrain your nervous system. Over time, those half-hour gains add up to deeper rest, steadier emotions, and a version of you that feels far more like yourself again. 
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January often arrives with a pressure to “start fresh” from January 1st, but this week I’ve been having very different conversations with my clients. Women who are highly capable, emotionally intelligent, and deeply self-aware… yet feel flat, overwhelmed, and strangely disconnected from themselves. No where near feeling "fresh" and excited for the new year. What I'm seeing is that their attention is too exhausted to even begin to think about the step to start "New Year - New Me"! We live in a world that expects or demands "instant" everything. That's created a habit of constantly fragmenting our focus in order to meet those expectations. Every day we end up splitting our time multi-tasking to get everything done:
But your nervous system doesn’t experience that as normal. It experiences it as never being safe enough to rest. Why multitasking drains your emotional resilienceWe are taught that multi-tasking is a productivity skill. It's something women do extremely well and often pride themselves on being able to juggle many things at one time. However, what they don't tell us is that multi-tasking is also a stress amplifier. When your brain constantly switches from one task to the next task without closing down any of the tabs, it burns our brain's energy faster, reduces our emotional regulation, and unfortunately increases anxiety. Over time, the more we mutli-task this shows up as:
As our brain never gets to fully recharge! Which then leads to... you guessed it LESS PRODUCTIVITY! The one thing we're trying to achieve by multi-tasking. Now, I know you probably love multi-tasking. I definitely used to, it was almot a badge of honor I wore. We all love being able to tick things off the list FASTER than lightning! And you're probably reading this thinking there is no way I can stop multi-tasking, I'll never actually get anything done... And I get it, there are so many shifting priorities and deadlines to meet every single day. So, if you can’t stop multitasking at work (and many can’t), start where you do have control. Stop multi-tasking at homeOne small practice I’ve been giving clients this week, to help calm their nervous system:
Be intentional with your time! Your brain has a limited attentional capacity. When you try to do two things that both require focus (reading emails + watching TV, listening in a meeting + replying to messages), your brain doesn’t split attention evenly. Instead, it rapidly toggles between tasks. That toggling uses A LOT of mental energy. Where you can = just focus on one thing at a time! You'll feel more grounded, and it's a big first step to helping you be "more present" this year, if that is something that you're wanting to achieve.
If you work from home and find it hard to concentrate or stay motivatedIf you work from home and notice your focus slipping, your motivation dropping, or the urge to multitask creeping in, this is important to understand: Your brain doesn’t recover by pushing through. It recovers through rhythms of focus and rest. One simple technique I often suggest to clients is based on the principle behind the Pomodoro Technique. Not as a productivity hack, but as a way to preserve brainpower and reduce mental fatigue. The idea is simple: Instead of working continuously until you’re exhausted, you work in short, intentional bursts of focus, followed by brief, regular breaks. Research shows that taking breaks before you feel depleted helps:
In other words, you’re working with your brain, not against it. What this can look like at home Here’s an example of how this might work in real life scenario, especially if you’re juggling work and home responsibilities:
This approach reduces the temptation to multitask because your brain knows: “I don’t have to do everything at once, there’s a pause coming.” Why this helps anxiety too When your nervous system knows rest is built in, it doesn’t stay on high alert waiting for the next interuption of your attention. Focus improves. Overwhelm eases. Mental energy lasts longer. This is about protecting your attention and reducing exhaustion. Which is one of the most powerful ways to support emotional regulation and reduce anxiety. Sleep is not optional for emotional regulationAnother theme I've been talking about A LOT this week with clients = SLEEP. Not just how many hours you lay there and close your eyes for, but also the quality of sleep you're getting. Which leads to how deeply your system is actually recharging (or not) every night. When sleep is compromised:
your nervous system is just tired. Rebuilding boundaries is how you rebuild yourselfWeak boundaries around work, health, lifestyle, relationships don’t just affect your emotional state and energy levels, they can also erode your sense of self as you continue to put everyone else's priorities BEFORE yourself. Over time, you lose:
This is the work I meet a lot of women and we do the work inside Rediscover Your Spark. It’s a coaching program specifically designed for restoring energy, identity, and emotional stability so confidence can return naturally. If this blog resonates and you'd like to learn more about these topics - reach out today! ~JB
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Life has a way of changing in sudden, unexpected, or overwhelming waves. Sometimes those changes feel exciting. Other times… they shake the ground beneath your feet. Sociologists call these moments “life-quakes”. LIFEQUAKE: A moment where the life you knew gets disrupted - either by choice, by circumstance, or by a season you never saw coming. Now, you may be thinking - these kinds of surprises happen all the time in modern life. We’re all dealing with busy schedules, constant change, and the unexpected all the time. But a life-quake is different. It doesn’t just disrupt your day… it disrupts you. It’s an emotional and identity-level disruption that leaves you questioning who you are, where you’re going, and what actually matters to you now. And for women, especially women who are go-getters, multi-taskers, high level performers, perfectionists and those who have built their lives around supporting others - life-quakes are incredibly common. But very few of us are taught how to navigate one. In this article, we’ll explore:
And if you’re reading this thinking “This is me right now…” - stay to the end. There’s a resource that may help you start to reconnect with the spark you’ve lost.
Unlike a typical change you make that alters your life in some way, a life-quake is:
Majority of the time it can be triggered by something that is deeply difficult to navigate. But also note that it can be triggered by something positive, even something you've said yes or agreed to AND actually wanted. What matters isn’t the event itself, it’s the internal impact that event has on you, your mindset and mental health. Common examples of life-quakes:
A life-quake essentially pulls the rug out from under your old identity and asks you to build a new one. This is where many women unknowingly enter an identity crisis, and feel like they are losing their "sense of self". How Do You Know You’re in an Identity Crisis?Identity crises don’t usually arrive with flashing lights and big neon signs. Instead, they show up quietly, subtly, in your internal thoughts and feelings like: 1. “I don’t know who I am anymore.” You’ve changed, but your life hasn’t caught up yet (or vice versa) and you stop recognizing the person you see in the mirror. 2. Losing motivation or spark "This no longer brings me joy" Things that once lit you up and brought you joy, now feel boring, overwhelming or sometimes even heavy. 3. Feeling disconnected from yourself "What do I even want?" You’re going through the motions doing all the things you normally do BUT nothing feels like "you" anymore. 4. Constant self-doubt and second-guessing "What should I do?" Every decision feels hard, even smallest decisions. You feel unsure about everything and question yourself more than you back yourself 5. Feeling invisible or unheard "No one cares about me, what I want" Your needs feel buried beneath responsibilities, expectations, or OTHER people’s priorities. 6. Grieving who you used to be "I used to be so fun and carefree" Even if your life looks “good” on the outside you feel a sense of loss for an old version of yourself. 7. Overwhelm, anxiety, or emotional waves "I'm worried all the time" Your mind is overstimulated, your energy is low, and your nervous system feels constantly “on”. 8. A deep desire for change - but no energy or clarity on what change you actually want You want to hit a reset… but you just don’t know where to begin. Everything feels hard and confusing. If you recognize yourself in any of these, please know you’re not “broken”, you’re simply in a chapter of what I like to call identity reinvention. Shedding the old to make way for a new version of you to emerge. You v2.0 is envolving - and that’s where coaching can become life-changing. Why Coaching Is So Powerful During a Life-Quake and Identity CrisisMost women try to navigate life-quakes alone, we tell ourselves: “I should be able to handle this” “Other people have it worse” “I just need to push through” But this kind of identity shift (which often comes with a side of burnout!) doesn't respond to pushing! They respond to pausing, listening, and rebuilding from within. Coaching offers exactly that. Here’s why coaching works during identity disruption: 1. It gives you a grounded space to understand what’s actually happening When your internal world feels chaotic, you need time and space for refleciton - not more pressure. 2. It helps you separate your true self from old patterns and expectations Many identity crises stem from roles you’ve outgrown! The achiever, the fixer, the caregiver, the perfectionist, the “strong one”. This finally a time where you get to rewrite the rules. 3. It resets your nervous system so decision-making becomes easier Burnout, overwhelm, and emotional fatigue cloud your thinking. A regulated nervous system gives you clarity and confidence again. 4. It helps you rebuild confidence & self-trust So you can stop second-guessing and start leading your life with certainty. 5. It accelerates your transformation What takes women years to figure out alone often becomes clear in weeks with structured guidance.  My Speciality: Identity Reset + Mindset Rebuilding for Women in Life-QuakesFor the past 8 years, I’ve coached 500+ women through the exact moment you might be in now. My framework combines: ◻️ NLP Coaching ◻️ TimeLine Therapy® ◻️ Nervous System Reset (meditation, movement, calming body + mind) ◻️ Identity + Values Work ◻️ Confidence Rebuilding ◻️ Next Chapter Intention + Goal Setting I specialize in guiding women who feel lost, disconnected, or overwhelmed to:
My coaching style is 100% aimed at guiding you on a path back to your most content and fulfilled self. If You’re in a Life-Quake, Here’s Your Next Step:If this article feels like it was written for you, it's because this is exactly the work I do every day. You can take the first step toward clarity and reconnection here: You don’t have to navigate this chapter alone. Your next aligned, grounded, confident version of you already exists. Let’s help you meet her. JANEL BRIGGS
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It takes a perfectionist to know a perfectionist. Yes, I admit I used to be one. From a young age I was ALWAYS obsessed with doing it “right”, frightfully scared to fail, and I continutally hit mental burnout (time and time again!) from my incessant need to control outcomes and re-do things a hundred times while trying to achieve the elusive perfection. Thankfully, I'm now 5 years into my 'recovery' for my perfectionism. So trust me when I say: this blog comes from personal experience and professional insight.  If you’re working for (or alongside) a perfectionist - and you’re NOT one yourself - it can feel draining, confusing, and sometimes like you’re never quite “good enough”.Working with a perfectionist can feel exhausting. Their high standards, constant push for the unachievable, and laser-focus on what’s missing (rather than what’s working!) can leave you second-guessing yourself or wondering if you’ll ever "do enough" to impress them. And if you’re not wired the same way - maybe you're someone who values flow over structure, progress over perfection, or prefers big picture thinking to detailed micro management, then the relationship can feel tense or stressful. But here’s the key insight I had to learn the hard way (that might change the game for you too): Perfectionism isn’t just about a person's need for control - it’s often rooted in an unconscious fear of failure, judgment, or critisim. Understanding this can help you stop taking things personally and start setting clear boundaries, communicating with more confidence, and creating an ease in your work relationships. The perfectionist’s inner narrative is often: “If I can control every detail, I can prevent failure. If I can stay across every task, I can ensure nothing goes wrong and I won't be judged or criticised.” It’s often a desperate need for control, in an attempt to quiet the fear but disguised as diligence. This is why so many perfectionists burnout in the workplace. There is a push-pull of always needing to do MORE. Here are five mindset shifts and practical strategies to help you work with a perfectionist to help you show up with more confidence to protect your peace in the working environment. 1. It’s Not Always About YouAs mentioned perfectionists are often driven by a deep fear or insecurity of being judged, failing, or letting someone down. Their meticulousness or over-correction isn’t a always necessarily a reflection of your value - it’s how they manage their own inner critic. This means:
If you're feeling triggered by any of the above... your best option is to reframe the situation: “I see what they're doing here. They’re trying to avoid risk, not trying to undermine me.” This shift in perspective can take some of the sting out of their feedback - and help you stay grounded in your own self-worth. 2. Ask for Clarity - Don’t Assume AnythingPerfectionists have high but often unspoken expectations. They might give broad direction but expect you to give them pixel-perfect outcomes. You don’t need to read their mind, but it's in your best interest to ask clear questions of specificially what they want/need up front (in dot point form!). Try asking:
The more clarity you get early on, the fewer revisions later and the more confident you’ll feel knowing you’re aligned doing (xyz) exactly as they outlined! 3. Don’t Absorb Their AnxietyIf you're naturally easygoing or flexible, you might find yourself absorbing a perfectionist’s pressure or urgency. Their energy can be intense and cause undue stress, especially under deadlines. The truth is: You don’t have to match their pace or tension to be effective. In fact, you’ll be even MORE effective when you lead as your authentic self. Hold your own internal rhythm. Breathe. Regroup. Get clarity. Stick to the way you work best. “I do my best work when I stay calm and centered. Even if they operate differently.” I can assure you the best outcomes do not come from anxious energy. Someone in the equation has to stay level headed and grounded. Perhaps you're most valuable gift is that you are not stuck in perfectionism spinning wheels with them! 4. Reflect Progress, Not PerfectionOne of the hardest things about working with a perfectionist? They often overlook progress in the pursuit of flawlessness outcomes. Sure, we all want success, but when every detail has to be perfect, it can feel like even if we're off by1% nothing is ever good enough. It can leave you feeling unseen, unappreciated, or like your efforts don’t count. And how will we ever learn and grow if anything other than 100% perfection is failure? You can help balance this by reflecting progress back to them. Try communicating like this:
You’re not asking for gold stars — you’re guiding their attention to what’s going well, and inviting constructive feedback instead of criticism. 5. Hold Your Boundaries - Know Your WorthPerfectionists sometimes overstep without realizing it — adding last-minute changes, asking for unnecessary tweaks, or expecting 110% MORE all the time. It can be incredibly frustrating and leave you feeling like no matter how much you give, it’s never quite enough. However, this is a way to maintain a collaborative relationship while protecting your time and energy. Try using language like:
This communicates that you’re engaged and professional — but also self-respecting with healthy boundaries. You Deserve to Feel Confident - Even in Tough Work DynamicsWorking with a perfectionist can test your patience, your mindset, and sometimes even your self-esteem! But you don’t have to change who you are to thrive. You just need the right tools and support to navigate it. Building real, lasting confidence at work isn’t about becoming louder or more assertive. It’s about knowing your value, communicating clearly, and learning how to stand steady in your strengths — even when others operate differently. -Janel Briggs  Ready to Level Up Your Confidence?If this resonated with you and you're looking for ways to stop shrinking yourself around different personalities at work to start owning your space... my 1:1 Confidence & Mindset Coaching is designed just for you.
Whether you’re navigating tricky work relationships, leading a team, or preparing for your next big step up, I’ll help you shift from self-doubt to unshakable self-confidence. 👉 Let’s work together to build the version of you who speaks up, stands tall, and leads with clarity and confidence. Book Your Free Discovery Call Today!
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The holiday season can be a time of joy—but also a source of stress for many professional women managing demanding careers and family commitments. Navigating holiday dynamics, whether at work or home, often brings pressure to meet expectations, resolve conflicts, and maintain harmony. However, what I've come to realise is that learning how to set clear boundaries CAN transform this experience! By managing your time and energy wisely (spending less time with people that drain you!) you can reduce stress, increase emotional resilience, and create space for meaningful experiences and more peaceful in your life. WHY HEALTH BOUNDARIES MATTERSetting boundaries isn’t about saying "no" to everything; it’s about saying "yes" to what aligns with your values, energy, and well-being. When you honor your own limits, you can show up more present and engaged in the moments that matter most. I used to fall into the trap of doing everything for everyone. I was the problem solver and caretaker of my family, as many women are. But without boundaries at this time of year I would be an anxious mess in the weeks leading up to Christmas, my memories of past Christmases that didnt live up to my expectations playing on repeat - affecting my sleep, energy and mood. What I've learned is that boundaries aren't about being closed off—they're about protecting your well-being so you can show up at your best, personally and professionally. They'll help you to conserve your time, energy, and mental well-being—allowing you to feel more grounded. The holiday season is notorious for its demands—extra events, financial pressures, emotional family dynamics, and the endless search for the perfect gift. When you don’t set boundaries, you risk spreading yourself too thin, leaving little room for the things that truly matter.  4 WAYS YOU CAN START SETTING HOLIDAY BOUNDARIES1. Prioritize Your Time and Energy It’s impossible to be everywhere and do everything FOR EVERYONE—so don’t try! Instead, decide what’s truly important to you this season. Is it family movie nights? Baking cookies with your kids? Or maybe just some quiet mornings to recharge?
2. Communicate Expectations Clearly (and Kindly!) Last week I wrote about the art of saying “no”! Setting boundaries requires open and honest communication with the people in your life.
To Family: “I’m excited to celebrate together, but I can’t host all of Christmas lunch this year. I would appreciate if everyone can contribute (either a dish, or cash towards food etc).” To Friends: “I’d love to join the holiday party, but I can only stay for a couple of hours due to other commitments.” To Your Boss: “I’m happy to wrap up key projects before the holidays, but I won’t be available after December 23rd as I’ll be offline spending time with my family.” Setting a Behavior Boundary: “I understand you have a lot to say about (x topic), but I won’t engage in conversations that feel disrespectful or critical. Please, let's keep it positive and supportive, otherwise I'm tapping out.” 3. Protect Your Mental and Emotional Energy As you know, family gatherings can bring joy—but also drama. It’s okay to limit your time with individuals who drain your energy or create tension.
4. Follow Through with Consistency Here's the reason why setting boundaries feels so hard, we KNOW that not everyone is going to like your boundaries. People may give you a snarky reply or talk behind your back. At the end of the day though, if they can't respect you and your wishes - then how much air time do they really deserve?? (yes, even if they are FAMILY!)
Your Peace, is your responsibility No one else is going to be looking for ways to bring you more peace. Only you can do that. Now, it may take some uncomfortable conversations and a little practice at following through. But, you are ALWAYS worth it!
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Have you ever had that sinking feeling that life, as you know it was crumbling beneath your feet?Yes well, that’s exactly what I've felt this year. I most certainly did not have a “Lifequake” on my bingo card for 2024. Predonimantly caused by a decision my family made to move from my beloved Singapore in Asia, to Florida, USA for my husband's job mid-year. Navigating this move seemed easy on the "outlook". But throw in a steep learning curve on natural disasters as we were thrust into two major hurricane evacuations upon arrival, a lengthy furniture shipment delay leaving us in an empty house, two personal injuries (one after the other!) that had me hobbling for weeks, AND just last week a bout of emergency surgery for my son's appendicitis... I'm just about all out of "sanity" by this point! The bigger issue here - all of these challenges have meant I've needed to pause and take time off launching my coaching into the USA timezone to reacquaint my nervous system with: a) my new environment, and b) this ever evolving version of myself If you’ve ever felt or experienced something like a “lifequake” before - you'll know there is only one way to explain it... It’s extremely UNCOMFORTABLE! And of course, life must go on, so you do your best to keep things together. While feeling like the LIFE you had carefully constructed is slowly but surely falling apart under your feet.  What is a Lifequake? A lifequake is more than just a life change; it’s a deep, pivotal shift that redefines your path and perspective.
Lifequakes tend to mark the start of a transitional phase, one that can last months or even years, where you’re adjusting to a “new normal.” How to Recognize When You're In A Lifequake Transition From my personal experience, the first step to navigating a lifequake is to recognize that you’re actually in one! Sometimes we’re so caught up in the busy stress of every day life that we don’t even realize we’re going through a transformation. Here are some signs you may be in a life transition:
 My biggest learning from this entire experience... Lifequakes, as challenging as they are, have a way of guiding us toward growth and new possibilities. Even if they don’t reveal the full picture right away. This transition can feel overwhelming, but please know it’s also an invitation to perhaps rediscover yourself and redefine what truly matters for you at this stage of your life. In my blog next week (yes, there is a Part 2!)... I’ll share simple mindset shifts you can make that will help you find more clarity, resilience, and purpose as you navigate through this season of change. It's the exact things I’ve been doing this year that have helped me immensly. If you enjoyed reading this blog, subscribe to my email today and get the next one straight to your inbox!
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In January you'll usually find me spending a lot of time over on LinkedIn. Honestly I love nothing more than seeing all the women making career moves and job changes with the fresh start of a new year. Women being celebrated for taking bold leaps into the new and unknown, brings me joy. I understand just how much anxiety and overwhelm arises when making a decision to change jobs, a career or industry. And how important it is to BE in the right mindset to make those big life decisions feel less daunting. People in general are known to struggle with making decisions and find it all very extremely overwhelming. Studies show that this is because we are creatures of habit, hesitant to step out of our comfort zones. When it comes to wading into the unknown we're wired to fear “losses” (what if it doesn’t work and I can’t go back?) more than we value potential “gains” (all the potential possibilities!). When our emotions (like fear, frustration, guilt, resentment) jump in the driver’s seat and dictate our decisions this can lead to several unhelpful roadblocks:
How do you face big life decisions with less overwhelm?Here's my quick 3 step strategy... you won't be surprised it's about clearing your mindset first! 1. DON’T make the decision from an emotional place For example:
Find ways to first calm your mind, process those emotions, get some rest and nourish yourself first. I promise the decision will come so much easier! 2. DO write your pro’s and con’s list
3. DO align your decisions with your values
Fear of making the wrong decision may be knocking on your door, but don't allow it be the reason you decide not to do something. Follow this strategy and take 5 seconds of courage to unlock the possibilities that are awaiting you!  I would love to know - if you've been thinking about taking a leap recently, what's holding you back?? Shoot me an email [email protected]! And if we haven't yet connected on Linkedin - you can find me here JANEL BRIGGS  About the Author:
Janel Briggs is an Author, Mindset Coach, Practitioner of NLP and Timeline Therapy on a mission to support women across the world in overcoming their anxiety - personal insecurities and professional fears - to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. Mindset Coaching aims to help you fearlessly elevate your life and career, and more importantly the relationship you have with yourself! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.
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This one is for all the Overthinkers13/11/2023 Do you ever find your mind spinning about all the “what if’s” and the “unknowns” within a problem or situation and you just can’t seem to shut those damn thoughts off? Overthinking is something that happens to the best of us, and it’s a sure-fire trigger for anxiety. It’s kind of like there’s a dance party going on in your mind with all these thoughts on a wild and random playlist. You’re expecting “Sunday Chill” and get delivered “Hard Rock Hits of 1990”. YIKES! When things get too chaotic, we often forget that we are the DJ of the crazy party going on in our mind. We can take control of the playlist, even if the volume of the music feels a little loud and out of our control. We can dial it down. But how? This week, perhaps start by recognizing when you are overthinking and practice interrupting the pattern of thought. Instead of feeding the train of thoughts with MORE questions and scenarios on the overthinking train, try to disrupt the flow and change the tune. Here is a recent video I did for my overthinkers on Instagram which will help!  Overthinking is very common in women who experience anxiety. In fact I’ve dedicated a whole chapter to understanding “why we overthink” in my new book, Becoming Fearless launching next Tuesday Nov 21. Here is a sneak peak of some things I share that can help to quiet down the internal noise:
It takes practice, but honestly from experience there is no amount of rehashing a problem that will help find a resolution in THAT moment if you’re anxious. When our thoughts are like a loud party, then we don’t have space to listen to our inner voice of intuition who is trying to give us advice! Shift focus and come back to it at another time. This is your reminder:Sometimes we have to let go of the problem before we can figure it out. The same thinking that got us into the problem, won't always get us out of it!  Ps. You can learn more about Becoming Fearless here and jump on the waitlist to get a copy. It's packed full of actionable tips and tools to help you relieve anxiety, naturally! 
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Phew... well, this past week has been A LOT to process, hasn't it? I've felt it too, the sense of confusion, helplessness, and overwhelming emotions from witnessing a world and people in crisis. Sick to my stomach reading and listening to the news, hearing the division and clash of words, opinions, and beliefs all over social media on topics that are far away and closer to home. As we’ve seen for hundreds and thousands of years, division brings destruction. Sadly, I have no solution or answers for you. But I do know that we’ll never be able to right the wrongs of the past with the same thinking that got us here. Often in times like these, when the world-fear and anxiety storm rages I get a little quieter. I go inward to reflect, process my emotions, pray for humanity and peace, and I count my blessings. I also put in place a few essential practices that assist my mindset:
If you're struggling with feelings of hopelessness and sadness from the weight of division in our world I recorded a special meditation for your this week. It's based on an ancient practice that cultivates goodwill and universal friendliness towards oneself and others.  After I have done all I can to tackle my emotions and educate myself on a tough problem, this recording helps me to re-focus my mind and nurture my spirit. Then I'll perhaps take a walk, listen to music, meet a friend for a chat, eat something nutritious, read a good book, go for a bike ride or take a nap. These are all constructive ways to support my mindset to fill time that might otherwise have been wasted on worry about all the uncontrollable's in our world today. Take care, JB
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 Have you ever found yourself wishing that someone in your life would change, thinking it would make everything so much better? Many women experience stress, mental and emotional strain as a direct result of the other people's behaviours and actions. "IF ONLY he/she would do THIS, then everything would be OK!"
If they would just make "this change" then our life would greatly improve, and I could stop worrying. I know, how amazing would it be if the people we cared about would do what we want them to all the time!! But here's the sad truth: You can't force anyone to change.No matter how much you want it for them or love them, what you say or do for them... only they can DECIDE to make changes in their life. You cannot control their choices or outcomes. And all that pushing will ultimately cause you more resentment, heartache, stress and pain. Which I know is a super hard to hear. I've been there too. I have multiple people in my life today I would LOVE to see change their ways - but a decade of trying to change them broke me and I had to learn to let it go. I've also seen this frustration in a few of my past coaching clients' relationships. Where women who have journeyed on the path of self-discovery for themsleves now want the same for their partner, sibling, child, or partent. However, in attempting to push them to "see the light" and change their habits and behaviours, they've ended up causing themselves angst. This is what I can share: You can't change them, but you can be the inspiration for their change. Perhaps even a catalyst, by showing them what is possible. The decision for someone to change their life has to be their own, otherwise the transormation may be fleeting or won't stick long term. If you can't walk the path for them, what can you do? Continue to focus on your own personal growth and well-being. Be the light in their life. From my experience it takes patience, but in time you may notice small shifts and improvements both in your life and theirs. Here are 5 actions you can take:
True power is found in changing ourselves and inspiring the change we wish to see in others. 
About the Author: Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in overcoming their professional anxieties, imposter syndrome, fears and insecurities to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. Mindset Coaching is about learning how to become fearless and level up your life and career! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram. |
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