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The most important day, is the day you decide your mental health is what matters most.
Once you create this mindset shift, you'll find quite a few things get easier to manage:
I think so much of the time, as women, we feel like putting ourselves first is somehow selfish. But, it's not. It's actually healthy! How can you continue to give the world from an empty cup?
I certainly couldn't. I was at the rock bottom of my priority list. My cup was so empty when I first recognised my mental health was a problem, I couldn't even muster the energy to get out of bed to feed my 3yo son.
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Your Mental Health Matters.
My first (and biggest!) mindset shift was recognising that I was the only person who could actually change that situation.
No one was coming to fix me. No one was coming to save me.
I had to be the one who decided enough was enough, it was time for something to change.
My wish is that I can empower you with 5 Simple Questions for Checking in on Your Mental Health so that your life doesn’t get to its lowest point, before you decide it’s time for something to change.
Let's get into it:
1. How am I feeling emotionally right now?
Checking in on your emotional state is an important step in assessing your mental health. Ask yourself:
“How am I feeling in this moment?”
“How long have I been feeling this way?”
In times of external stress, we often deny our emotions, push them down and say, “I’ll deal with that later, I don’t have the time for this”.
The funny thing about emotions is… we have to feel them, to heal them. Our emotions will continue to arise, in small or big ways, until we do.
And at some stage they could even become super overwhelming - anxiety, anger, frustration, sadness – derailing you from every day life.
2. Am I taking care of my basic needs?
Mental health is closely intertwined with our body’s wellbeing. Your body may begin to show symptoms of poor mental health before you even realise it consciously. Muscle tension, pain, feeling restless, headaches, insomnia, appetite changes are all key symptoms. Ask yourself:
"Are you getting enough sleep, skipping meals, eating balanced meals, and engaging in regular exercise?"
Neglecting your body’s basic needs can contribute to fatigue and the body’s stress. If you are not well slept and nourished, the mind has less resilience and finds it harder to process stress and emotions.
3. Am I managing stress effectively?
Are you feeling overwhelmed and constantly under pressure?
Take a look at your coping mechanisms and self-care practices. Health stress management can be as simple as making time to move your body, meditate, journalling your thoughts or connecting with a friend – after a rough day.
4. How are my relationships influencing my mental health?
Our relationships and the people in our life play a crucial role in our mental health. Ask yourself
“Do you feel supported, valued, and respected?”
“Do the people you spend time with uplift you, or drain you?”
“Is this connection healthy for me right now”?
Perhaps it’s time to create a healthy boundary and/or take some time away from the people who maybe feeling toxic right now, to recoup your energy.
5. Am I engaging in activities that bring me joy and fulfilment?
When our external stress is at capacity, we forget about the simple act of doing things that bring us joy. If you are giving out all your energy to work, or other people’s problems – life is going to feel bleak really quickly. Ask yourself:
“When was the last time I did something just for the fun of it?”
“What is one thing that I could do, to bring more joy into my week?”
If you’re looking for ideas for spending quality time with yourself, perhaps try one of these:
Remember, checking in on your mental health is an ongoing process. It’s essential to be honest with yourself and seek support if you notice any persistent concerns or challenges.
There is no downside from ever working on your mindset or making some simple chances to your daily habits!
About the Author: Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in healing their professional anxieties, insecurities and imposter syndrome to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. The goal is to level up your life and career by learning how to to live fearless and anxiety free! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.