You are NOT Failing!

I am hearing the tired echoes of women in my community who are totally burnt out and feeling like they have FAILED this year.
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Unable to work at their usual capacity.
Unable to achieve goals and bring to life ideas and projects they set out to do.
Unable to hold it all together like use to.

Unable to be five steps ahead of everything and everyone. No longer having that focus and motivation for exercise and eating to take care of their body.

The truth is... YOU ARE NOT FAILING. You are living through a pandemic - GROWING and EVOLVING every day. 

You are learning more about yourself and the people in your immediate world, than you probably ever have before. The intricate details of …

• What is most important to you and what you really want
• How to live and work under the same roof
• What decision fatigue looks like after 8 hours on zoom and how best you recharge your batteries
• What snack and bartering tools work best with the demanding little people if your life
• If you live alone… who means the most to you, and who you are ok with letting go
• How to manage emotions when you are triggered by anxiety, frustration, sadness, loss, disappointment
• How bloody resilient you really are!!

And, if you have the pleasure of home schooling like me add re-learning Grade 2 to that list (argh!).

This is your reminder, that real life will still be there, after the pandemic. And so will your dreams and goals. 

​The body you are unhappy with right now, can absolutely make a comeback. The job that you cannot stand, might feel different when your office returns or after a holiday (or maybe it’s the push for you to make a change). The relationship that is causing you frustration, will hopefully look different when we can have more room to breathe and external outlets.
 
And that goal or achievement that you set a date for and missed, doesn’t mean the goal isn’t worthwhile! Zoom out and see the bigger picture, perhaps there has been more to learn on the way to that goal you want to so much?
 
In my map of the world, there is NO failure. There is ONLY feedback.
 
Notching your failures is what keeps you feeling stuck, literally reliving the past with your mindset fixed on “I failed - it will never happen”. 

Where as a growth mindset says “What I can learn from, I can change” which keeps you moving forward (and feels so much lighter doesn't it?!)

What have you had to learn, grow, heal or fix this year….?

Answer that first, and then shift your goal posts. 

So, how do you get unstuck?

1. There is no failure only FEEDBACK
2. WIPE THE SLATE CLEAN of the past and start fresh
3. Set REALISTIC goals for your energy and productivity capacity right now knowing that things will change in the future
4. BE KIND to yourself
5. Do what you can when you can and that is GOOD ENOUGH!

Side note: I really hope that if you are reading this and still in lock down that the only goal you are setting for yourself right now is focused on your health and happiness! I know your world being on pause is frustrating, I feel it too.

Let's be honest - NO ONE is really achieving right now!

​I don’t care what you are seeing on social media. Everyone is hurting from this pandemic. Everyone is just doing the best they can to survive and make it through. And if they are achieving then I have no doubt that something else has had to give.
 
I am a firm believer that you can do anything, you just cannot do everything to 110% all at once without a ball dropping somewhere!
 
Take care
​JB

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