Controlling the Uncontrollable

A lot of people were  battling in 2019, it felt like... "how could it ever get any worse that this?".  People I spoke with lived in hope that the dawn of a new decade would be a fresh start, and exactly what was needed...

And yet, the first quarter of 2020 totally blind-sided all of us.

First, the bush-fire crisis and now the spread of COVID-19 has left us grasping for answers. What the hell? 

Our will is being tested as we look our deepest fears directly in the eye and are being asked to put on a show of courage and strength like never seen before.

I've seen humanity come together in one breath to help raise funds for our hard hit communities, and then shattered and divided apart over the simple necessity of Toilet Paper, in the next breath.
Sadly, I've seen more relationships falter in the first 3 months of 2020 than in the last 10 years. Stress and anxiety is at an all time high as WE ALL grapple with uncertainty.

Why is this happening?  What does it all mean?  Will we be ok?  How will we get through this?

I don't own a crystal ball, but I can tell you I am almost certain that nothing will ever be the same... and I think you feel it too.

Life will change, because that is how evolution works.

The way we live, and work, and school has already had to shift, adapt, pivot. You will change through this experience. We all will. But, change in my view of the world.... isn't always such a bad thing.

It is 100% how you ride the wave of change that will determine your experience. 

“The only constant in life is change”- Heraclitus

Yes, this moment in time is NOT pleasant. And I repeat NOT.

I am exhausted (like I am sure you are too) juggling the external world changes, finding ways to still work while keeping my son entertained. If you've lost work no doubt the added financial stress and limited opportunities now feel overwhelming too. With that ever constant nagging at the back of my mind - do we have enough toilet paper, and food??

We would all just love to know - how long is this thing going to go on for? Because then, we could make a plan right? We could map out the future.

The lack of control of the outcome, is what gives us that anxious feeling. Nothing is for certain. So, how am I working to calm the waters of my mind?


​I am focusing on the 10 things I've worked out that I can control:

1. Staying home - except for an hour a day when I get fresh air and exercise or pick up food
2. My Morning Routine - meditation, journalling, and yoga to kick off my day with CALMING energy using my Ultimate Morning Routine. If you've got my Learn to Thrive journal you'll know what I'm talking about :)
3. Spreading GOOD energy and gratitude! Showing up every day online - Instagram is where you'll find me. Each Monday I post an IGTV video on ways to help you keep your mindset healthy during this time
4. Reach out to 5 people a day to check in on how they are doing, sometimes your strongest friends are the ones who need a pick me up the most. A little message of "Im thinking of you" goes a long way
5. Coaching and hold space for my clients (thankfully treating business as usual) and creating a new short 7 day program being released next month! You can get on the wait list here
6. Welcoming new clients with open arms of understanding
7. Creating a "new normal" for my son making home schooling fun (which is more like random activities to keep him off you tube!)
8. Building my immune system - cooking and eating nutritious food for me and my family, taking supplements to boost our health
9. Sleeping well - digital detox 9pm-8am! Phone is off, no TV, screen or work emails. Aiming for at least 8 hours sleep, so that I can have fresh energy daily
10. Remembering - THIS TOO SHALL PASS

I hope these ideas help you to be able to feel like you can control something, during this time when the outcome is uncontrollable!
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Take care of yourselves and your loved ones.
Janel

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