5 to THRIVE: #4 Give Up People Pleasing

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“When we try to please everyone, we end up pleasing no one... Last of all ourselves” - Simon Sinek
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Do you ever find yourself saying YES. When you really want to say NO??

“No” is a hard word. I know... specially saying it to the millionth person who asks for your time when your already at breaking point. I have no doubt you are a good person and like helping people.

Honestly, saying no to my 6yo son, when Im working a deadline and am juggling balls is like giving myself an instant headache. He has jedi mind tricks ;0 and will not stop asking until I break!!

I get it. I am a self confessed people pleaser from way back. I love helping people too, I want to feel valued.

However, when it comes at the cost of our own happiness, depletes our energy, or is not in alignment with what we want... then it is OK to say "no thanks".

If you find saying NO hard then check out this short video. 

• I’m posing a new viewpoint on people pleasing
• I offer questions to ask yourself in the moment 
• I give you positive affirmations to say/write daily to help you shift your mindset to be more comfortable with saying NO!

​And remember... 

​The day I gave up worrying about what other people thought about MY CHOICES in life... was the day I set myself free!

I went to see a hypnotherapist once. I was looking for some relief with a stressful situation. I was deciding whether to leave my full time corporate life to grow my side hustle business, I was conflicted, scared and very unhappy at work.

The visualization she had me do I remember was of me with these huge wings on my back. However my wrists were tied by long chains to the ground. Every time I tried to fly, the chains pulled me back down. It was painful and dark.

I was weighed down by so much fear, and I realised it was the weight of other people’s opinions and expectations of me. To be the perfect daughter, wife, mother, worker bee.

As the Hypnotherapist was speaking to me about releasing the fear the links of the chains started to break. And I felt this enormous rush of energy as I broke free and flew up high into the sky! No longer weighed down by these constraints. It was incredible!

That was my first step, I broke free after a 15 year career and walked on my own.
If I had let the fear, worry or doubt of other people’s opinions stop me - then I would not be the person I am today.

What is the fear of other people’s opinions 
​stopping you from doing today?

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