3 Questions to Release the Negative Emotions that are Preventing You from Achieving Your Goals

Do you feel like you move through each day, month, year at the speed of light... but never actually achieve anything?

I've been hearing this a lot from my new clients this year, like no matter what they do they still feel so far behind on those big life goals and dreams.

Typically, when I hear a similar coaching process a few times, I know it's valuable to share wider. So, I am giving you the exact tool I give to my clients in private coaching to increase their overall sense of well-being when goal-getting.

How do negative emotions play a part in whether we achieve or don't achieve our goals?

​Negative emotions such as fear, frustration, self-doubt, and resentment can quietly sabotage our ability to achieve our goals.

When we’re caught in these emotional states, our focus narrows to the problem rather than the solution, making it harder to see opportunities or take decisive action.

Persistent negative feelings drain our motivation, disrupt our decision-making, and can trigger procrastination or avoidance all of which slow progress.

​Over time, this emotional roadblock erodes confidence and creates a cycle where the very mindset we need to succeed is weakened, keeping our goals just out of reach.

But there is something you can do to help shift your mind away from the negative emotions and begin to bring in feels of productivity, pride and accomplishment. 
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It begins with a simple question:

Q: When was the last time you celebrated YOURSELF and how far you have already come? ​

The mind can so easily get stuck on "all the things we haven't done" or are "yet to accomplish". The ego telling us we are unorganised, lazy, and need to be "more productive".
 
Essentially the mind's job is to assess for risk but, as you probably know these thoughts cause us to feel GUILT, perhaps like we aren't good enough. And guilt is 100% the biggest showstopper to any good action! 
 
Guilt creates resistance. We are less likely to do the things we want to do, when guilt is in the drivers seat. So, to cut the guilt and create more momentum it's time for a reality check.
 
Here's one of my favourite coaching tools:
 
At the end of each week take 5 minutes to sit and reflect. Grab a cuppa and a notebook and write down the answer to 3 questions:

1. What went well, or what were you proud of last week?
2. What was your biggest challenge last week?
3. What is your intention for the coming week?

It's a small action you can take weekly to strengthen your relationship with yourself, help you pursue your goals with intention and generally just feel BETTER about life!
 
How it works:
 
If you focus your mind on the negative emotions it will find loads of reasons to not take action.
 
The mind has a natural tendency to remember negative experiences, and store negative emotions / interactions RATHER THAN positive ones.

​That's because the human brain is hard wired to scan for threat more than 5 times every second!

Whereas if you focus your mind on what worked, it will find reasons to keep going.
 
Taking moments in you day and week to "reprogram" the negative bias with positive self-talk, affirmations, and celebrating what you've accomplished fires up your neural pathways giving the brain an opportunity create more happy and positive feelings.

• When you reflect on what you did well this helps the mind to move in a positive direction, remembering all you have actually done in the time you had available
• When you observe the challenges of the week this helps the mind to remember acceptance and self-compassion
• When you use the power of intention to future focus the mind your actions become steppingstones to your goals. And your intention is always working even when you don't realise it!

If you are stressed about the future this simple 3 step weekly journal reflection process will help to improve the quality of life, week after week.
 
It's so simple, you could even start today! 

Try it for the next 3 weeks and let me know of the differences you notice.

If you're looking for more personal guidance to help you relieve negative emotions and hit your goals...

Come check out my 1:1 private coaching programs The University of YOU and Eleveate Your Confidence

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​About the Author: Janel Briggs is a NLP and Timeline Therapy Practitioner on a mission to support women across Australia and Singapore in healing their professional anxieties, insecurities and imposter syndrome to build unwavering confidence and self-belief. The goal is to level up your life and career by learning how to to live fearless and anxiety free! Connect with Janel on social media via Linkedin or Instagram.

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