Feeling Lost? 5 Steps to Help You Find Your Purpose and Rebuild Confidence

Have you ever woken up and thought, is this it...?

You’ve checked all the boxes—career, relationships, responsibilities—but something still feels missing.
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Many of the women I speak with in their late 30s and mid-40s are experiencing a moment (or season!) of feeling “lost”.

Questioning their purpose and struggling with confidence.

“I’ve got everything I thought I wanted—successful career, a family, our own home—so why do I still feel so empty and disconnected from myself?

Often, these feeling are triggered by major life transitions—kids growing older and becoming more independent, career stagnation, shifting relationships, or the realization that the goals they once chased no longer bring fulfilment.

Fortunately, there is a way to rediscover your purpose, and you can rebuild your confidence.

It starts with small, intentional steps. ​Here’s how:

Step 1: Reflect on What You Enjoy

When was the last time you felt truly alive? Not just content, but energized by something you were doing? We get so caught up in what we should be doing that we forget what actually lights us up!
Take a moment to reflect on:

• Activities that bring you joy
• Moments when you’ve felt most fulfilled
• Times when you lost track of time because you were so engaged

Think back to your childhood—before responsibilities took over. Did you love writing, painting, organizing, or problem-solving? These little clues can guide you toward what’s missing in your life today.

Step 2: Identify Your Strengths and Values

Your natural strengths and core values are key to discovering your purpose.
Start by asking yourself:

• What do people often come to me for advice on?
• What tasks or skills feel effortless to me but challenging for others?
• What principles or beliefs do I hold most dear?

For example, if you naturally lead and inspire others, perhaps mentorship or volunteering in a leadership capacity will fulfil you beyond your current role.
If creativity is your strength, you might thrive in roles that allow self-expression. Aligning your strengths with your values helps build a purpose-driven life and career.

Step 3: Try New Things

Fear of change can keep us stuck in a cycle of dissatisfaction. If you’re feeling lost, it might be time to shake things up! You don’t need to overhaul your entire life overnight, but trying something new—big or small—can open doors you never expected.
Consider:

• Taking a class in a subject that intrigues you
• Volunteering for a cause that aligns with your values
• Exploring a different industry or side hustle
• Traveling solo to gain fresh perspectives

Stepping outside of your comfort zone not only builds confidence but also gives you valuable insight on what excites and fulfils you.

Step 4: Seek Guidance from Mentors

You don’t have to figure this out alone. Seeking guidance from mentors, coaches, or role models can provide invaluable insights. Look for:

• A mentor in your current industry who embodies the kind of success you desire
• A  coach or specialist who has expertise in career transitions or self-discovery
• A networking group where you can connect with like-minded women

Sometimes, an outside perspective can help you see the bigger picture and inspire you to take the next step toward your purpose.

Step 5: Trust the Journey

Finding your purpose isn’t a one-time event; it’s an ongoing exploration. It requires patience, self-compassion, and trust in yourself. You might not have all the answers today, and that’s okay. Every experience, even the challenging ones, is guiding you toward clarity.
If you feel stuck, remind yourself:

• Growth isn’t linear—setbacks are part of the process
• Self-discovery takes time; give yourself grace
• Confidence comes from action, not overthinking!

Instead of waiting for a “grand epiphany”, start taking small steps toward the things that bring you joy and fulfilment. The more you explore, the clearer your purpose will become.

Lastly, I want to remind you that feeling “lost” doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re evolving.

By reflecting on what you enjoy, identifying your strengths, stepping outside your comfort zone, seeking guidance, and trusting the journey, you’ll start to regain confidence and uncover your next direction and purpose.

If you're ready to dive deeper and need support along the way, let's connect—I would love to help you start this process!

Book a Call with Janel

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